This might seem silly and hope you don't mind i just had no idea what i can do for 1st Birthday idea.

My sister had her twins at 27weeks in June 07 one passed away due to TTTS

I know it will be a very mix emotions day , i just want some advice.

I want to do some think for both the boys but what for our Angel? and do you think it's a good idea .

it just so hard cause being the day they were born and Angel T death what and how do you celebrate him as well

Please excuse me if am not making sense , just want to know what a good why to handle it etc more so.

Thanks sorry for the dribble hope you can understand what i am trying to say.


Hope you don't mind me posting here or is there another appropriate place to post

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Kristie

As someone who has lost a baby (not a twin, though), I would think that it would be important to your sister for people to remember both her babies on this day. She will probably be very relieved that you have remembered to celebrate the birth of both her twins. I imagine the day will be full of mixed emotions for her so just be there and follow her lead IYKWIM.

Perhaps write a personal card to your sister and her DH or buy a small gift for her in memory of her lost little one (a teddy, a candle or an ornament perhaps?).
You are a very sweet sister for being there for her .

Tilly

I though was good idea to remember T as well, mum thinks that well it just a day for A Well it is but T was is someone too YK , i suppose it just going to be hard.

I just hope that i will do the right thing

Sorry for you loss also

Thanks so very much for you help

Kristie

I am sorry to hear about your sister's lost twin.

I am guessing this 1st Birthday will be a bitter sweet for your sister.

I totally agree with what Tilly said.

Belinda

Krista, I am sorry for your sister's loss. I agree, it is important to acknowledge T's birth but it must be very difficult. I have a work colleague about to go through the 1st birthday thing too with his triplets, one of whom was lost to TTTS at 20 weeks. He and his DW are planning to have a private family commemoration, seperate from the surviving triplets' birthday celebration IYKWIM.

The AMBA website has some information for Family and Friends which you may find useful. There is also an organisation called OzMOST (Aussies Mothers of Surviving Twins) which may provide some ideas for you.