I do not care what people think of my choice. I do not want replies like 'The name is nice' or 'The name is bad.'
I want to find out useful things. Like I had not thought before posting that people may think the name 'Tiano' may rhyme with 'Piano'. I want responses that will help me think of things that I would not have thought of before.
Is everyone here just holding a poll? If so, why?

I hold a poll when my husband comes up with sucky suggestions and I want to print out a list of people saying, "That name is bad."

Apparently if you don't gush, you are being negative.

I think it is extremely useful to know the good and the bad. I also like the idea of the polls for the tearful and sensitive. You could only pick one of the following.

TBH I think a lot of people would prefer smoke blown up their *ahem* and watered down answers, than hearing honest and realistic opinions, but y'know... whatever.

What I do not understand is the people caring what random strangers think. Do they think - 'Wow 12 random strangers thought Rasputin is a nice name and only 8 thought it a bad name. So I will call him Rasputin.

I am glad you don't care about others opinions of your names. In that case, don't ask

Everyone has a different opinion so you would be silly to ask about a name and not have some people disagree. You often find people highlighting things that you wouldn't have thought of that is very useful knowing. Such as the meaning of a name, or connotations that could mean bullying for your child later in life.

I personally have found it really useful as I don't want my family knowing my child's name and this is a way to bounce ideas off people without getting too personal.

Honestly.....this forum cracks me up!

Of course we care what people think of our baby names. It's not an easy thing to choose. Your've gotta remember when posting a negative comment that these ladies are mostly pregnant and emotional as it is. Just be a little kinder....
You can blast me about my names......I can take it (mind you I'll argue with you) but remember some mightn't, and some OP's have been geniunely upset about some answers and rightly so. I can hear you saying "well, why ask if they don't want to hear the negative?" Just mind how you give a negative answer.

I'm sure none of you would want to upset a pregnant mother by making harsh comments! And you can argue all you like about the harshness of them. Some could be put a whole lot more politely!

What i really hate is when they ask if the name they like "goes with" another child's name!!

If you like Aaliyah and you like Barry, use them! Who cares if they "go together"

I posted this on another board asking why people on parenting forums ask opinions on baby names. Here is one reply I got- "The answer is the same as to why they always give themselves nicknames like "BabyMomma" or "Maddyson's Mommy". Because they calculate their self-worth by reference to what other people think, and believe they have no innate value beyond their role/persona as a parent. They therefore need the little high they get from people telling them that the name they chose for their little angel is "teh best", and will doubtless use that as a comeback if anyone ever asks why in the blue hell they named their child "Tangerine".

That's why I never take part in any of those parenting forums - the majority of participants strike me as coming from the shallow end of the gene pool!"

Blueslipper, can I ask why you are posting this? Do you genuinely want to know or are you just looking for trouble?

I don't think there is anything wrong with people finding their self worth. Everyone needs to feel like they belong and have a place in the world, and if their place is to be a parent then I have absolute respect for that.

Maybe you should not take part in this forum if you consider it to be shallow.

I asked because I wanted to know. I wanted to know what the opinion of the general public was likely to be about the names we were thinking of for my daughter. I wanted people to be honest on both sides.

I learned as much from the people who didn't like it as who did.

I contribute in here because I like names, I like looking at them and talking about them. I tell the truth if I respond because that is what I want. I think I like more names than I dislike on here.

I don't think it makes you a brainless moron to want to know what people think. I don't understand the posters who only want to hear how cute Maddyssonn is and how the spelling makes it even more unique than all the other Madisons in her class but I suppose they have their reasons too.

It is a strange area though, the only EB hate PMs I have had have been from the baby names forum!

I do not really understand what you are trying to say- TazzieD

There have only been a few Lotus and they didn't threaten bodily harm so maybe just a , it doesn't warrant a full !

I like names! Unfortunately I am not pregnant (I don't think) but I am always coming across names I like for any potential children.

I would never have thought Ophelia could be construed as I Feel Ya if it wasn't for this section!

I asked because I like to hear the connotations people have for different names, and to get suggestions based on my style.

The self worth theory is interesting. Sometimes the name in the sig is almost larger than the child. I don't use my son's name on here for privacy reasons.

I actually like both responses actually

I have asked for quite a few opinions on names, I do not NEED approval but I like to get an idea what the general public will also respond with (especially any possible nicknames). I chose the name I wanted months ago, just needed to convince DH I'm almost there now

And personally, I LIKE it when people advise on the spelling, sometimes it's something you hadn't thought of before.

I have asked about certain names here in the past as DH and i have agreed not to discuss names with family or friends. He doesn't like talking about names so sometimes i would just like a second opinion to make sure the name flows well etc.
I don't get offended if someone says that they don't like the name though.

I ask about names in here to hear both positive and negative comments about the possible connotations and nicknames that my child might face with certain names. I get just as much out of the positives as I do the negatives. And I understand that if you ask for honest opinions on an internet forum, you have to prepared to get just that.

One of my baby naming books sums it up well about why should you listen to what anybody else has to say about a name for your child:



I am not a person who cares what other random people think - if I was choosing a name for myself then I wouldn't necessarily feel the need to ask for opinions. But IMO it is not fair of me to give my child a name without finding out what implications that name may have for THEM.

I've done this also:

Blueslipper I have to say that I don't understand why you are here in the baby name's forum, having a go at people who are seeking anonymous input about their baby names? If you don't see any value in this Baby Name section why are you here??

I for one love discussing baby names, hence the reason I am here reading your post in the first place!

And thanks, but I'm not from the shallow end of the gene pool, and nor are any of the other EB members. Not very nice comments to make Blueslipper.

I just need some help, we have NO names picked out at all, 5 weeks to go

I also like to come in here and comment on people's name choices when they ASK, as I would never say anything bad about a child's name in real life unless asked what I thought so that is why I am happy to offer my opinion on EB.

I am with others though if you are not prepared for people to dislike the name you have chosen then don't ask for comments on it

Lisa

Blueslipper I have to say that I don't understand why you are here in the baby name's forum, having a go at people who are seeking anonymous input about their baby names? If you don't see any value in this Baby Name section why are you here?? huh.gif

I for one love discussing baby names, hence the reason I am here reading your post in the first place! original.gif

And thanks, but I'm not from the shallow end of the gene pool, and nor are any of the other EB members. Not very nice comments to make Blueslipper.This post has been edited by twoblessings: Today, 01:25 PM
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You may actually try reading my post and trying to understand it before posting a reply which confirms your membership in the shallow end.

If you read through the majority of the threads in this forum, you'll find they are usually fairly evenly split between people asking for suggestions, or WDYT. There isnt generally as many purely 'poll' related topics. And well even if there are, people will still back up their choice with their reasons (usually). Polls arent always a bad thing anyway, sometimes a poster just wants their choice reinforced etc.

I come here for basically the same reasons as have already been stated. I like names, I like hearing opinions and feedback on names that I havent thought of myself. And admittedly there is that little part of me that enjoys to goggle at the awful names (IMO)some people ask about.

Just a tip blueslipper, when quoting people, use the [quote] [ /quote] tags (minus space before the /) so people can understand what you are saying and what you are quoting other people as saying. Easiest way to do it is to highlight what you want to quote after you have pasted it in and hit at the top of the text box you type in to reply.

Amanda

I think forum's such as this do a great service to society. If it stops just ONE person naming their child Tyjiuna Texas Rae or Shaquyllyna Crumpet Honeybottom then the work here is done.

I think it's nice to hear other peoples perspectives. I dont have a problem with people liking or disliking any name suggestions. I do not swim in the shallow end of anything. Just because people may not like your suggestions or may like them, doesnt mean a damn thing. I dont know of anyone in here who would say "OMG 2 people dont like Alexander as a name, we just can't do it!!" it's ridiculous to think like that, honestly.

I figure if you have nothing nice to say, dont say anything at all.

Atomic Betty - so very very true!

Because I like to feel the naming zeitgeist waft past me whilst I'm playing in the pool.

Because a cursory glance from the water's edge is not enough to confirm the depth of the water.

Why not?

its a bit of fun.



Chill out OP *** and if you don't like parenting forums then bugger off and let us be shallow all on our own! go on *shoo* *shoo*

Sas xx

Couldn't agree more I was thinking the same thing but along the lines of Shakaya, and couldn't think of a tactful way to say it lol!

Lisa

I agree, it's a bit of fun. I certainly wouldn't be put off by what others say, if I love a name I will go with it anyway. If this baby name forum irritates you why don't you just give it a miss instead of attempting to get people to justify why we do it. I am certain there are more trivial and tedious things posted about on this website that could perplex and/or annoy you .

or Cassynthia

Well this could not be further from the truth in my case and quite frankly I view it as a lot of c*ck and bull. I asked for others opionions as I dont profess to know all the opionions and thoughts of every person out there. I certainly did not post foe others opinions to shine light on myself.

I found it VERY useful. I liked the nme Matilda but loathed Maddy. I have since learned that the most common nn for Matilda is tilly.

I'm planning on using this forum to test my names out on Aussies - firstly to see how Aussies would pronounce them, and then to hear what people might say (so I can be prepared for comments when they come irl!)... Not so that other people can decide what my child is going to be called...

Meanwhile...

OMG, you wouldn't SERIOUSLY put Aaliyah together with Barry... Surely, Barry is then meant to short for Bartholomew - or Aaliyah goes by the nickname "Ali"... Aaliyah and Barry, where are the naming police when you need them???

blueslipper, it may be easier for people to understand your post if you added another set of quotation marks after "Tangerine" ie "...named their child "Tangerine"."

It can become confusing if you are quoting someone else and leave out punctuation like that.

I am completely grumpy and sleep deprived and this thread is the BEST laugh I've had in days! Thanks everyone!
ETA - LynnyP...I loved your first post here!