Did having twins change the number of children you decided to have overall?

For example I only ever wanted two kids (and was very staunch about it) and that was my plan but ended up with three because of my identical twins. Sometimes I catch myself thinking about when the girls go to school and whether I would have a fourth. This is probably not a great idea because there are fraternal twins in my family and knowing my luck I would end up with another set.

Anyway I was just wondering whether having twins made you re-think the number of kids you had overall - i.e. - more kids or less kids.

I was hoping for 2 kids but #2 and #3 decided to come on the same day

Now I have 4 and would consider another Yep I'm crazy!!!

I don't think that having twins made us decide to have more or less children.

It did determine how close in age they would be though. If they had of being singletons I would have gone back for another PG much sooner (mine were 3 when we got PG again).

For us it was how my body coped with PG that has determined how mnay children we have.

Belinda

Defintly!! When DH and I married we were very defintely having NO children! He said from day 1 he wasn't interested in having children at all! I thought this was fine as I had no opinion on it either way.. Then we got married.. Well I had a ring on my finger and a biological clock ticking that I didnt even know existed!! It was a very, very trying time in our marriage but we made it through and decided to try for a baby.. Fast forward 9 months or so and there he was, our perfect baby boy.. So perfect in fact that I thought he needed company! Much discussion later, DH and I decided that we would try for number 2 under the proviso that that was defintly it with no discussion entered into and the DH would be having the snip asap after baby arrived. Not long after that was the news.. Its twins!! Well my poor DH, he is the best dad in the world but 3 kids!! OMG!
We love our children but no way would we have planned 3! Everything is harder! From short trips to the supermarket to holidays. We are one parent short all the time.
Just a babble from me...
Cheers
Nat
P.s DH is having the snip on wednesday..

DH and I are discussing this at present.

We always said we wanted 2 children but now we have the 2 (at same time) I want another.

I feel a little cheated that they both came at the same time IYKWIM so would love another.

DH on the other hand says well we said two and we have two so no more.

DH only wanted 1, I wanted 3, so we agreed on 2 and were both happy with that. Well we got our 2 first time around!

I really want another, DH really does not. My argument is that we got a 2 for 1 deal so they really only count as one . Dh isn't buying it LOL.

DH always wanted 2, I was always thinking maybe 3, but undecided.

Since we got the "2-4-1 deal" I am now a definite 3 but DH is still stuck on 2.

I will genuinely feel like I have missed out on something big in life if I don't give myself a chance to a singleton. We need to have a big chat in the near future to work out what we are going to do.

We had to do IVF to have DS and DD. I wouldn't go through it again, just try the 1 frozen embryo we have left and maybe try on our own for a set amount of time (1 year I think). I wouldn't expect this to work but it's worth a try.

If god / fate / the baby fairies decided so, then we'd have another. I just have to convince DH of this plan...

Cheers.

Has changed for us and my girls are only 3 months old. DH always wanted 1 or maybe 2. Now he says 3 or maybe 4 and I'm happy to go along with that I made it pretty clear when we found out that it was twins that I definitely didn't want that to be my only pregnancy.

Yes it did change our decision on how many children to have. My DH wanted to have 2, and I wanted to have three. The triplets were our first children so we both decided we would like to have another.

Yes and No. Originally we decided on 4, DH has a daughter from his previous marriage so it would be 5 for him 4 for us IYKWIM.

After 3 m/c and shocking 1st trimesters with both my girls when we decided to TTC #3 DH pretty much said that was it. We were trying for a boy and originally I had agreed that if #3 was a boy that we'd stop and DH had said that if #3 was a girl we *might* go again. But as time went on DH was adamant that #3 was it and my heart was growing fonder for #4.

At 6 wks we found out we were having twins and we both decided that was it!! DH had the snip when I was 35 weeks pregnant.

Mind there are still days when I think how I would like another

My apologies Nee or any other triplet, quads and more mums ... I should have included you all in my original question which of course I did mean all mums of multiples.

We got a singleton then twins. My husband had always said three and I had always said two. He's pretty pleased with himself that we got the three because of the two for one deal. Mum on the other hand ...

It has actually surprised me that I have started to think about another down the track but it would have to be a long way down the track and depend on how full my hands are with the twins. I'm not sure why - maybe I would just like a chance with another singleton?

Hi there

I've always wanted 4 and tease my dh by saying I want 5 and I still haven't had my twins yet but I know i'll want one more after the twins...I think the only difference for me is that I'm going to wait 2 years before ttc again rather than 6 months like I did for number 2...but in the end it took us a year to fall pregnant so who knows when I'll ttc again

I get a bit annoyed by everyone telling me to have the twins first and then decide if I want more but I've always wanted a large family and having twins won't change that...just the timing

Corrie:)

Yes, DH wanted 2 & I wanted 3. Got 3 when the twins arrived 32months after DS.

See my ticker above for where we're at now.

Over 6yr gap is good for me.

DH wanted 2 and I wanted 4. We compromised and decided on 3 and then got our 2-4-1 deal, which gave me my four lol.

But I want just one more too, to experience a singleton again. He is adamant there will be no more and I am really struggling with it .

No, not really. We've both always wanted 4.

We had a singleton and then twins. We'll probably be trying for #4 early next year. Although being a fraternal twin myself and then also having twins - we could end up with 5.

Oh Juzzy CONGRATULATIONS! I aways said we would TTC #3 when my girls were 3. Well they are 4.5 now and I still haven't convinced DH...maybe I'll try for a 6 yr gap too .

CONGRATS JUZZY!

Back on topic

I was very happy to stop after having the two boys (8 & 4). After my first marriage ended and I met my new partner however, he was keen for us to have a child together. After almost a year of uncertainty (I don't do the 'baby' stage well ), I decided that 3 was a nice uneven number and we began to try for the final member of the family. #3 wound up being #3 & #4, which was definately more children than I'd ever planned on having, but, now that we have them both, we can't ever imagine life without the two of them and being a family of 6.

Our grand plan was 4, although that didn't include twins as the first half of that. That being said, we'll probably still have 4. I'm very glad to have had twins first - although difficult cutting your 'parenting teeth' on twins, I can't imagine doing this with a toddler. Hats off to all of you who do!

Thanks CalamityJane & Gumby.

CalamityJane, good luck, he took awhile to see where I was coming from but we decided to try this year & if it was meant to be it was. Which it was. Best of luck to you.

Thanks again & back to OP.

Before marriage we thought we'd probably have two and just take it from there. After DS1 & DD2 came along DH was happy with two but after much discussion I finally talked him into #3 on the proviso that would be it. So, #3 comes along and he was such a fun, lovable baby it didn't take all that much convincing to get DH to agree to #4 but this time it was on the condition that it would definately be the last and I wouldn't even raise the possibility of another one with him. I agreed although secretly I kind of felt that I wouldn't mind 5. But, I just accepted that 4 was good and I'd just have to be happy with that.

Then, the twins came along and I got my 5. I was thrilled. DH took a little bit of time to warm to the idea. But, true to my word, I have never suggested trying for another baby. It'd be a hard anyway since I had a tubal ligation at the twins birth. The good news however is that I've never felt like I wanted to have another anyway. My family is now complete.

Ooh - congrats Juzzy!!

Back on topic - neither DH or I were desperate to have kids - we thought we were both getting on a bit and that we would regret not trying - one month later I was pregnant with twins - I think there's a message about fate laughing at our plans in there somewhere! Our tentative idea had been that if we had a baby we'd see how we went and maybe have one more. As soon as we found out it was twins I knew that would be it - neither of us want any more children and I am soooo pleased to be past the baby stage. I do feel a little regret that I never had a singleton and got to enjoy that, but we're both happy with our two wonderful girls and measures have been taken to ensure that they're it!!

Thanks Maree.

No, it didn't change our plans at all. I'm more than happy to have more twins if that is what ends up happening.

DH and I didn't really discuss numbers in regards to kids. Our boys were a big surprise - but we never thought that was it for us. When we fell pregnant with DD I started thinking 3 would be nice to finish with!

DH is now 99% sure that 3 is it for him, but I am not quite there - maybe 80% for me. It doesn't help that a lot of my friends are pregnant so the thought of one more does pop into my head from time to time.

DH and I had decided that we wanted 2 kids which we had. Well then we both decided to go one more and I had always told people that if I ever had 3 kids that I would have to have 1 more as I did not like the uneven number and having being the eldest of 3 kids didn't like it either.

Well guess what we got the 2 for 1 deal and ended up with 3 and 4 at the same time .

Annette