My twin DD's are 5 now, and DD3 is 7 weeks old. I have been enjoying DD3 so much that sometimes I feel bad for DD1 &DD2. They got a stressed, cranky first time mum and DD3 is getting a more relaxed mum with experience. I know I enjoyed the girls too, but if anyone asked me what it was like/how I'm finding it I would most often reply "hard" or "a lot of work". Whereas my reply to the same question with DD3 is "great" or "fantastic". I know it helps that she's a good baby and twins are a lot of work, but I still kind of feel bad.

So, for those of you who had twins then a singleton... Did you feel like this? Is it 'normal'?

You are NOT alone!! I felt the SAME way. I feel bad sometimes that I love my DS more than my DD's. One baby is SOOO different. I loved having my girls & back then thought it was great, but one baby is sooo much easier. I have so much more time to ENJOY my baby. I would love to have another baby, b/c this time has been far more enjoyable.

Belinda

Yeap I got to say what BusyB has said. Hi Belinda


I am more relaxed with my last bub she has a less stressed mum then the girls did and do! I love days like today when it is just me and Courtney at home. So peaceful! So your not alone.

You are so not alone. I also felt guilty about it.

Don't feel guilty about it. It's not just a twin thing. I had my twins last, not first but the same thing happened. Being a 1st time Mum is stressful and I found I enjoyed my 2nd baby more because I knew what I was doing more. 3rd baby was even easier and a more enjoyable time again. Now with the twins I'm enjoying them just as much. It's more work obviously but I get enjoyment out of different things with them e.g. watching them interact with each other rather than rely on me for their entertainment.

Hmmm...does any of that makes sense. I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's natural to feel that way. I suspect alot of mothers do (with twins or not). With twins I suspect its alot more noticable though since having them 1st up would make the "new mum" experience even more difficult to begin with.

I have to agree with PP, I had singleton first and then twins and I felt guilty for my DD1 sometimes as I was much more competent with the twins, though, I also felt guilty that the twins couldn't get as much personal attention as a singleton.

Thanks for your replies.It's good to know you've all felt this way too.It doesn't necessarily alleviate my guilt,but at least I'm in good company!

Belinda - I know what you mean about having another one (just don't tell my DH ). DH would love a fourth and I have to say I can't bring myself to rule it out just yet, but I'm definitely not promising anything!

OMG I am exactly the same. With DD i am the most relaxed happy mum whereas when the boys were little i seemed to always be stressed or crying!! I am trying to make up for it though and honestly i don't think the boys have any idea. I think its natural when you have two first up - just a crazy time!

Rach

I really hope I feel the same way!

Great to see I'm not alone... #3 is a very easy bub and I love not having the rush of 2 babies... you get to slow down and enjoy the feeding cuddling with 1 at a time rather that rush through because there is another baby waiting for a feed or cuddle...
I do look back though and wish I hadn't felt so rushed with the twins... when there probably wasn't any reason...