just wondering what to expect at the 2 yr old check up with our mchn in 2 weeks

my dp wont go to them anymore he gets lectures on smoking

just the usual height/weight check, development check, and other questions about hearing/sight any concerns that sort of thing. Just lots of questions about their life whats going on what they have achieved and if your worried about anything. I gave up with the checks as well I got sick of their opinons on my two

ahh so its on of those checks i will walk in all happy and then walk out feeling bummed
ds1 always passes the physical development stuff fine but he has a speech and language delay.

We're due to go next month too & at 18 months she told me DD should have between 6 & 12 words but she's still not really talking much 6 months later. Just lots of "no" at the moment!
I am just interested in how much she weighs & how tall she is. Is this the last check-up?

I was the same since my DD1 was born she was with a developmental paed right from then as she was early - but for the whole 18 months we were with him we'd go their feeling really positive and all that but come out feeling totally bummed out and depressed. After the 18 month chck up I decided I'd stop seeing him and go to another paed. I'm so glad I did - I just had the 2 year check up and shes doing so much better then seh was at 18 months

They usually just do a weight height general check over do a developmental test and talk about any concernsthe parents might have and arrange thigns if theirs concerns.

Whats with some of these mchns?? Same story here!!

We'd go in feeling very positive about DS, and always focussed on what he could do. They pretty much only focussed on what he couldnt do. As a pp said, we'd come out feeling very depressed and dejected. At the 18 month check up, they said DS had language delays (duh, we knew that), said that he was unusually obsessed with spinning wheels even tho he only did it that day! ..sent us off for hearing tests (even though he's someone that can hear cotton touch felt and wakes up as a result of the "noise" ) and we ended up with 6 months of speech therapy, 3 developmental assessments and worried about autism the whole time. Not that we regret the speech therapy, but we worried so much about whether he was "normal". Thro all this we had family on our back telling us off for listening to these "experts". It was a horrible time and as a family, we suffered and didnt really enjoy those 6 months of our life.

Nowadays we just check his weight once a few months or so; dont take him to the doctor unless he is sick or needs vaccinations. He eats like any other toddler, is happy, active and most importantly, interacts well with other children. Im relying more on his carers at daycare now - they are saying that although he is a bit behind in speech, he is making progress. He's happy and has advanced problem solving skills for his age - and so Im going more by them than anyone else.

i am bit worried bout his hieght and weight at his last check up he was in the 10th percentile 4 weight at 10.6kg

My DD was always around the 3rd - 10 percentile band too. As long as they are following the curve, there is little to worry about. It is more if they suddenly go down (drop of the page) or have a sudden spike upwards (lie jumping up 2 lines in a month or two). If they are following the curve then they are growing as they should, even if slightly smaller than average. Remember too, it is just "average", for every kid that is over the 50% mark, there is another one who is under! They are also based on bottle fed babies, and BF babies tend to be a little smaller. (More relevant to the younger ones though)

My MCHN was an ogre too! And with DD being prem, I had to see her 3 times a week initially! Did wonders for my new mother psyche - NOT! I have hardly taken DS to them at all, and both DD and DS seem fine. Although she told a friend of mine that her 18 mth old DS should have around 20 words, so they are now off to speech therapy. my DS (same age) only has about 5 words, (clear enough for a stranger to understand) but he's learning more each day, so I'm waiting another year before I panic. WHy are they all so negative? Or most, anyway.

I rely more on our GP, friends, and the internet where necessary. If Im worried I would go to the GP then a paediatician. Ship the MCHN all together. MAybe they have a quota of people that they have to refer on to other services, needed or not! I also find that the early Childhood nurse service our local pharmacy provides is HEAPS better! Much nicer nurses and less judgemental.

he had a sudden drop from 50th to 10th around 18months old and no one freaked out we got told it was "very normal"by my mchn
our pead always weighes ds1 she's keepign an eye on weight coz of him not putting on if anythign he is losing

I suppose it could well be normal for a lot of kids - this tends to be when they suddenly get picky and start to control how much they will let you feed them. I would talk to your paed about it - I trust them more than the MCHN's

Good luck, try to not worry to much about it, and always get a second opinion if you are not happy with what they say.........