[cassi8]

I need some ideas. DS2 thought he would make my life a stress and came 11 days over and consequently I have both boys birthdays 1 day after the other. I want have a 1st birthday for DS2 so all is fair when he looks back on pics but I don't want DS1 (turning 4) to feel left out.

I have a birthday party planned which will be for DS2 and planned around it being a 1st birthday but I want to make each their own cake so DS1 will feel included.. any ideas or suggestions? How have others done this?

[Turn left]

Have two different parties, or have a party for your eldest son and include the other sons birthday in it. Lets face it, a one year old is not going to realise it's his party anyway, nor is he going to really care. A four year old knows the difference and will feel left out.

My girls are 12 months apart and their birthdays are within two weeks of each other, we've done the whole joint party thing and it didn't work for us, we are doing separate parties from now on.

[Apageintime]

My sister and I are like this, as her birthday is first, her party was always on the weekend before, mine was the weekend after.

should birthdays both fall on the weekend, we negotiated on who would have a party and who would just have family over for cake.

[Lil Chickens]

We just had a joint party for my 1 and 3 year olds on Sunday. DS turned 1 on Sunday, DD turned 3 today.
We only have family parties at this stage anyway so DD knew it was a shared party where she got her presents from us (we kept one back for today) and family. They had cakes each and we all sang twice.

No hassles at all.

[cassi8]

The week before is Fathers Day and the week after we will be packing for a trip so no time to have a split party. I realise that the 1yo won't really understand that its all for him but I am all about fairness ect and want him to look back on his own party IYKWIM. I am glad others have done it though and it can work.

Will will do something with the ILs the week before as they will be overseas on holiday right through both birthdays and DHs.

DS1 will get his party next year for his 5th. I will eventually have an 18th/21st to do as well but they will be old enough to negotiate that between them or have a combined one!

[sophiasmum]

My DD1 & DS are 2yrs in age difference, their bithdays are 3 wks apart, we have done 1 combined party when DS was small & tbh he didn't care. We are planning to do a combined party next year somewhere in the midfle of July, invite both lots of friends & have 2 cakes. Is this what you had in mind oP?

[Manicmum]

I have twins, they both choose a colour and the party theme is coloured so we have blue and pick balloons and a blue and a pink cake, that way it is clearly for two, let him
Invite a couple friends on his colour paper.

Just an idea.

[rob6712col]

I have twins too but each want to celebrate their own birthday. We always have 2 different invitations sent out. One year one wanted Dora and the other wiggles so one half of the kitchen table had a Dora table cloth and partyware and the other end had Wiggles tablecloth and partyware. One sat at each end, their friends spaced around the table. 2 birthday cakes, sing happy birthday twice, photos of each individually blowing out their candles. So as far as parties go they both had thier "own" party.

You could do something similar...decorate half the room/table as 1st birthday and the other half whatever theme the 4 yr old wants....have fun with it.

[ambwrose]

If you are already planning a big party for your older child for his fifth birthday next year, then this year I would get him to pick something special that he could do for his birthday with you and a friend. Make him a cake and have it on his birthday and so make that day special.
Have the party for the baby and do what ever you like for it. Then in the future alternate parties so DS2 this year and DS1 next year. With the other child picking a special activityfor the year they don't have a party.
I'm also a believer in having a childs party on their birthday so that might not work for you.

Margaret

[Beancat]

Hi, My babies are three years apart but only 11 days between the dates. I didnt want to do a 4yo party this year, but like you will have to as DD's 1st birthday will set up expectations for the 4yo.

So we have decided to have the big 1st birthday for DD as DS got one as well. That party will have all the relatives, extended friends etc. At this party the grandparents can give their present to DS. Then DS will have his party a fortnight later. The plan is for him to have only his friends and we might take them to MacDonalds, so while its not a big party it will be somewhat different to his sister's if he gets to go to MacD's