[HeroOfCanton]

Quiet in here again! I'm so terrible with chat threads - I think I've mentioned that before. I try not to join them, because I feel guilty when I abandon them!

First of all, Tess, congratulations on your lovely baby girl - still waiting for a name (but I'm sure you've heard that enough!) Are you still feeding Mila as well as the new bub?

*howls*, I did feel some aversion to feeding DD towards the end of my pregnancy. When she would ask I'd feel cross and sometimes quite upset with her, but I very rarely refused, and tried to never let on that it felt like a huge inconvenience - I feel really awful about it though
I must admit, that I feel it occasionally now too - but I hope that goes away when DS isn't feeding 2-hourly. It just feels like I've always got at least one boob out these days
michie0moo is right though, BF had to be working for both of you. Although she's also right about leaving weaning 'too late' and having a toddler associate it with the new baby.
I honestly feel that DD reacting so well to DS is in part because they can 'share' me. DD doesn't have to miss out on time with me because DS needs to feed all the time, she does it too and can 'relate' to him a little bit - IYKWIM?

michie0moo - how are you feeling? you must be getting close to your EDD

hello Just-one-more, how great, getting to 2.5 years breastfeeding. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I realised the other day that if I intend to feed DS until his second birthday (which was my goal with DD, I'll have been breastfeeding for 4 years. It scares me a little that I won't have 'my' body back for that long, possibly more.
Selfish, I guess, but I want to drink wine again, or be able to have a late night out with my girlfriends. Keep my top on all day long!
DH said I don't have to try & feed DS as long as I did DD, but it would feel so unfair weaning him at (for example) 12 months because I wore myself out feeding DD for so long. Sorry, I think I'm rambling - but DH doesn't really get it - he's totally supportive, but thinks giving up will be easier than it really would be.

Everything else is going alright here, I think. Still havent weighed DS since he was 12 days old (hes now 5 weeks), but he's thriving - getting chubbier, sleeping well (only wakes 2-3 times between 7pm & 7am) etc. We have a development check next thursday, so we'll see then.
TBH, I lost my faith in the MCHN's at our clinic when one suggested I stop BF'ing DD at 9 months because she hadn't gained any weight in 4 weeks - she had just started crawling after the last time she was weighed I don't think I saw them again til she was 18 months old!

anyway, I hope everyone is doing well - stop in & say hi!

This post has been edited by *Browncoat*: 02/08/2012, 08:49 PM

[CherryAmes]

Thanks again for your update Browncoat.

My partner actually asked me outright to wean my toddler before the baby arrives; he is really worried about how on earth it is all going to work. I just told him straight out no, that plenty of people have tandem fed. For some reason he hates it when my toddler asks for milky when she's unhappy or hurt, I think he just doesn't get that it isn't just for 'milk'.

I am hoping that the tandem feeding will help with the bonding . Less than 10wks to go now . . .

[lizard67]

Hi everyone, I haven't been on here in awhile. We have had a few hiccups with this pregnancy which has made me a bit side-tracked! Our bubba was diagnosed with ventriculomegaly, which is abnormal dilation of the ventricles in the brain. After a lot of tests we have been given the all clear and baby should be born healthy in 7 weeks time.

Now back to breastfeeding. I am still going strong with my DS aged 20 months. He is feeding heaps and is enjoying the mummy cuddles. He has just now started to ask for a feed and says "milk please mummy". Very cute!

I saw my doctor today (who knows I am still breastfeeding) and there was a medical student attending for the day. My doctor had to leave during the consult and deliver a baby, so I had a great chat with the lovely med student. I told her I was breastfeeding DS and she remarked that would I need to wean him before this baby comes along? Well I think I ear bashed her for a good 20 minutes on tandem feeding. She had never come across it before and was very intrigued. Hopefully when she is practicing medicine she'll remember our conversation.

Looking forward to meeting my little one soon. It's been great reading this thread and getting support from you all. I don't know anyone in real life that has breastfed during pregnancy or tandem fed. At least I know i' m not the only one out there

[michie0moo]

Just a quick update. Due next week and just can't wait for the baby to arrive (pretty over the whole pregnancy thing right now).

DD (26 months) is still a boobie monster - average of 4 feeds a day still. She had fewer feeds yesterday but the little ratbag woke twice overnight demanding boobie so I'd rather just give her the feeds during the day and get a bit more sleep. Still hoping this all works out ok with feeding both. DH is not happy about the idea - he envisages making her wean while I am in hospital with bubs. I could opt for an early discharge and be home (assuming birth goes well) but I think that I would prefer to take it easy for a few days and I know myself well enough to know that there is no way I wouldn't be trying to do more than I probably should if I'm home.

CherryAmes - My DH sounds a lot like yours. Even yesterday when my Mum was telling him how DD only had 2 feeds for the day he said that was 2 too many He is so not happy that she is over 2 and breastfed, let alone the idea that I will feed the new baby and still breastfeed her. He is also really worried about how they are going to get her to go to sleep and settle without the breastfeed as she will throw an inconsolable tantrum if I tell her "no" when she really really wants it (she can be distracted at other times). The final result of the tantrum has always ended up with me feeding her because I can't stand to have her that upset for that long. Might be a tough few days or she might be fine as she will hopefully realise that if Mummy isn't there, there is nothing Daddy can do. (I actually think it is the helpless feeling that DH has when she wants a breastfeed and he can't "fix" it that is the real issue he has with me breastfeeding). He knows I'll do what I feel is best but I hate that we disagree on something so integral though. I have the same hopes as you WRT bonding DD and bubs.

Lizard that must have been a really scary thing finding something wrong. Glad that it all looks ok now. Had to laugh at the "ear-bashing" that you gave the med student. I can understand them not having come across it before. I don't know anyone IRL who breastfed while pregnant either, let alone tandem fed a baby and toddler.

[meohmy]

Hi all,

Sorry haven't checked in for a while. Congratulations should be due for PippityPip by now, hope all went well.

Seems alot of DP/DH's are similar in their views, mine is the same, supportive if that's what I want to do but generally not thrilled that DD1 is still feeding (completely supportive of it for the baby just not older children), not really sure why that is but guess it's all part of how breasts and breastfeeding are viewed by many, least round here.

:: toots :: I didn't really have an aversion to bf during pregnancy but like *Browncoat* sometimes have it now towards DD1. I will still feed her but sometimes will end the feed after a few minutes, she will sometimes feed forever and it's ok sometimes but other times it's just not and I bear it to a point and then end it, it's probably moreso the days I'm feeling tired(er) and/or touched out that I experience it. Sometimes she gets upset and others she's fine.

I would agree with *Browncoat* that sharing bf/mummy has helped DD1 form her relationship with DD2. She's fine about seeing DD2 feed, will say DD2 needs a feed when she wakes, is ok if I interupt her feeding (when feeding together) to reattach DD2, and (cutely) try to help DD2 reattach when she's watching.

lizard67, your student and the one I came across must have had their teaching together, or more likely and scarily, that is what the common view (maybe teachings) of students. I had one accompany the midwife on a visit to us (early discharge) and she nearly fell of the chair when the midwife asked how it was going (was apparently noted on front of my file). We then had some educating of the student to do who was just stunned about it and also that I would still be bf a child over 2 (scary that was her view when WHO recommendations are till at least 2), I could hear her asking questions to the midwife as they walked down the drive. Hopefully she'll expand her knowledge and views before she starts practising.

michie0moo, I hope the next week passes quickly and that the birth goes well, look forward to hearing the news and how tandem feeding is going for you all.

Hope everyone elses pregnancies are going well

[meohmy]

Anyone still out there?

[ruthlet]

I've been watching this thread and reading with interest I'm 27 weeks pregnant and still feeding my almost 14 month old 3-4 times in a 24 hour period (usually includes one overnight feed).

I'm not going to actively try weaning DD1, so am just seeing how it all goes and am happy to tandem feed if she's still going strong in December. DD1 still seems perfectly happy and wants her milk, but her feeds are quite short so I'm not sure there's anything much to be had.

I hope everyone who is feeding during pregnancy or tandem feeding is going well!

[deedee70]

I persevered through all the pain, which finally stopped at about 27 weeks, only to have my daughter decide to self wean anyway! Typical!
Still waiting for my baby to be born !

Good luck to everyone else!

[meohmy]

Welcome ruthlet! deedee70 I hope that all is well with your new baby

Just wondering how the others are going? Hope all is well with the mums and new babies

[CherryAmes]

Overdue, still here and still breastfeeding! My 21mth old was sleeping really well till the last week and now wakes up at least once wanting a breastfeed . . . it's going to be very interesting when the baby finally arrives. However, I've been really cueing her in to the fact that the baby will be also having milky so hopefully that helps.

Good luck to everyone else waiting for their babies to arrive!