[*mylittleprince*]

If you are both keen, I say go for it.

I absolutely adores DS, he is 3 in September and my little best friend. We have such fun together, I love hanging out and doing stuff and he is a wonderful little person. I'm due with twins just after he turns 3 and at first I felt similar to you, then I thought what a joy to give him siblings. I absolutely adore my sister and it's such a special bond to have a sibling. I think it's not just about feeding/settling a baby, etc but giving them each time. #1 will sometimes have to wait while baby is feeding/being changed, etc and baby will sometimes have to wait while you are busy with #2. I'm going to keep doing things DS loves (playdates, parks, playgroup, etc) so he doesn't feel like his whole world has changed and the babies have taken over.

[MotherMonkey]

You're right MyLittlePrince, I shouldn't look at it like we'll be missing out on things, I should just see it as a challenge to get twice as much fun in!
Thank you x

[CallMeProtart]

I felt the same.
No. 2, however, happened as an accident when DD was only 4 months old.

And now when I hear them laughing and giggling together, and hear about them playing together at daycare even though they have so many other kids to play with, and see how they are comfortable in any situation because they have eachother, and how much they are each others best friends - I thank my stars for that accident.

And who knew - I can dote on two children just as much as I doted on one! The only downside is that I feel TWICE as vulnerable as there are two of them to protect and worry about now.

[lozoodle]

It's normal, you get over it pretty quick. I adore my second just as much and now we are trying for a third

[BVB09]

OP,

We were axactly the same when we were contemplating having our second child after being so in love with the first child. When I had my second it was the same feeling all over again.

They try and battle for my affection, but I have plenty of love to go around for the two !

[lilwonder]

I felt exactly the same when pregnant with my second, but after seeing her with her brother over the last year I have absolutely no guilt left - what she has gained in her relationship with him makes the time and attention she now has to share a total non issue. So much so I am now unexpectedly pregnant with my third and I have hardly felt guilty in the slightest as I know it will just mean more love for our family and it will enhance the lives of my kids even further

[soontobegran]

As everyone has said, it is a common emotion, in fact I don't think I've heard anyone who hasn't thought the same thing OP.
It only happened between #'s 1 and 2 for me because I realised after having #2 that there is no such thing as loving one child too much and running out of love for all the others.

[MotherMonkey]

Thank you so much everyone, I've just LOVED hearing about your beautiful little families, they sound so precious & it really has made me feel better about enlarging my own.
I've decided that I will wait a few more months so that the Monkey would be about 3 when his sibling arrives (if it all happens as easily as it did the first time of course!) & that way he will be old enough to understand it a little better & be involved.
I would love it if we could all look forward to the arrival of a brother or sister together & am pretty sure this would ease the guilt significantly.
Thank you so much for not making me feel crazy, I can't tell you what a difference it's made xxx

[Meplusmoo]

Yep, I have been feeling this way with my first on the way. I have 2 gorgeous nieces and the eldest niece has a big soft spot in my heart. She is just this amazing little 5 yr old who does anything for anyone. I am 27 weeks pregnant and have been thinking how could I possibly love someone as much or more as I love my niece. I feel I love her like she was my own anyway.
I really can't wait to experience a mothers love for her child.
Sorry OP, no help, but I do understand what you are saying.