[niggles]

Every time I've ever wondered where the heck my husband is there is a perfectly reasonable explanation for his absence. And yet I still worry when he's late. Like now it's 10pm and I expected him about 4 hours ago. His phone is turned off and I don't have the contacts for anyone he is with. I want to go to sleep but of course I can't when I have no idea where he is or why he hasn't called. He would usually call. He would usually be asleep in bed by now ready for work in the morning.

This is probably just a vent. It would help if someone could just tell me it's okay to just go to sleep and not sit up watching the driveway through the window every time I hear a car drive past. Or are you a worry wart like me?

[Ianthe]

I would be worrying too but it was rare for my husband not to be contactable. Is he out with friends?

[Guest_Starletta_*]

I would worry. 4 hours late with no contact? Why can't he just check in? I think it's unfair to leave you hanging like that...

[3_for_me]

I have learnt that almost always someone has facebook on their mobile. Search the names of people he was out with and send them a message via facebook, someone is bound to reply!

[Princess.cranky....]

DH has done this to me many times. He can be 4 hours late home for work and doesn't bother running. The worst was last year when he didn't come home at all. I was frantic with worry and ended up calling the police first thing in the morning. They tracked him down sleeping it off at a mates house. I could have killed him (not literally of course).

So yep been there and he has always been fine. But why do they do this to us when they know we will be at home worrying?

[niggles]

Now my phone has just rung 6 times in a row and hung up each time I answer.

He is usually contactable. This has happened maybe 3 times in the 12 years I've known him.

I can log on to his Facebook and post as him? I'm not friends with any of his work crew that he was out with so they wouldn't see if I post I don't think. I don't really use Facebook. I guess I can search their names and send them a message. I don't want to overreact.

[3_for_me]

Just send a message, "Hey is DH with you? Just checking cos his phone was out of service and making sure he's OK before I head to bed"


Not a huge deal and if you say out of service rather than off it won't sound like you think he is deliberately avoiding you.

[tenacious2]

I hope he is ok, then if he is, its a pretty awful thing to do to you.
Sounds like this has happened on other occasions. I think it's just courtesy to give your loved ones a call to let them know you are caught up. Even if his battery has gone flat on his mobile he could have asked a friend/colleague to call you. I think it's worth having a serious conversation with him about how worried you are and what you want him to do if he finds himself in this situation again. "When you..., I feel..., I want..."

Can you ask him for some contact numbers of his friends?

I'm sure he will be ok.

[*CalamityJane*]

Sounds like he's trying to contact you and he's somewhere with bad coverage.

He's almost certainly fine (until you do actually manage to get hold of him of course ).

[3_for_me]

A thought but have you tried smsing him? Sometimes an SMS will get through in bad coverage when a call won't.