[canuckmel]

For me, it was when the 1st was toilet trained so I wouldn't have 2 in nappies.

[*Mumma-to-A*]

My sister had 2 HG pregnancies - many hospital stays right till the end. She fell pregnant with her 2nd when her 1st was 9 months (ish). She loves the gap and laughs at me because I wanted a bigger gap (and that was after saying I didn't want another)

I will have a 4 years 7 months between babies and can't wait - No 2 in nappies for me, DS will be at school part-time so I can have naps some days with the newborn and personally think my mental health wouldn't have survived or possibly my marriage. I also don't have a huge family support (they help when they can, not that i need it often but I don't currently work and they all work full time) My DH is as much support as I personally need.

She had (has) alot of family support through both our parents (who work odd hours) and her PIL not to meantion me, my BIL could support her better but he uses his family instead. Her 1st also was not a sleeper nor her second and while it was hard for her she wouldn't change her children for the world.

It's your decision.

[Xiola]

It would be hard to say have a 4 year old who was finally becoming really independent, and then have to go back to the newborn stage again.

From my personal experience, I completely agree.

I've got a 2 year 4 month gap between DS1 and DS2 and a 4 year gap between DS2 and DD. I much preferred the smaller gap and wish we'd had DD sooner. It's been a massive shift for me personally to get used a small baby again. Your situation is a little different from the norm because you really need to factor in how sick you are and if you'll have support through your pregnancy but for me, closer is better (DS1 was old enough to be able to climb into his car seat so I didn't have to lift him and things like that but he was still in nappies when DS2 came along and it was no big deal).

[Bunbaker]

I have a 7 year old DD, 2.5year old DS and 11 month old DD.

I had terrible morning sickness with DD1
Aweful with DS but
DD2 I had HG and was in and out of hospital and don't feel like I left the lounge room floor except when vomiting a thousand times a day (Well it felt like it lol)

There is 4 years 9 months between DD1 and DS.

I then fell pregnant with DD2 when DS was 10 months old (planned). I was first admitted to hospital at only 5 weeks pregnant. I was on Zofron daily and still very unwell. I lost alot of weight, the works

I went on to have DD2 the day DS was 19 month old. DS has been a very laidback, cruisy baby since day 1.

I have found the 19 month age gap much easier then the 4yr9mth gap. The little ones were both still in nappies, in highchairs and needing similar attention which I felt made things easier. Not always for example when they are both crying and needing you or needing to be fed,bathed etc at the same time but you get into a rountine that works. Hubby works fulltime and also studies at Tafe 2 nights a week so it was hard on those days but gets easier by the day.

My eldest daughter is very helpful now when it comes to helping me out with the little ones too. I find that now she is 7 she is not into the same as the little 2 and needing help with homework and other sports and crafts now. Which can be difficult to juggle.

I LOVE the smaller age gap and would love to go back and have the 2 older ones closer. They are now playing so well together and are going to be such great little mates. We would have a similar age gap again next time although we are going to Disneyland in December and I don't want to pregnant while away so we are going to try from when we are there/get home.

Hoping to have bub# 4 from in 2nd half of next year giving us around a 2 year 4 month gap. I am very nervous about being so sick again but it is all worth it so I am excited to complete our family with one last bub.

I think if its something you would like then you will make it work somehow. I wish you all the best and hope for your sake that you have lovely healthy easier 2nd pregnancy whenever you may decide on