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When did you first 'feel' like a Mum, Durung pregnancy, after birth, much later?

Tea~for~two View Member Profile	28/04/2012, 08:08 AM Post #1
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A friend of mine has just come home from hospital after having her first baby and we had an interesting discussion about when you first 'feel' like a Mum. She had a two hour labour and bub was whisked off to neo nates (he's fine, just a bit stressed from the fast delivery) so she said that she didn't even feel like she'd had a baby. He had a bit of tongue tie, and so she had to sign a form of consent to have it snipped and she said 'that' was the moment for her. For me it was much, much later. I remember walking out of hospital with DS in my arms thinking that someone was going to run after me and say 'Stop! Where are you going with that baby? Bring him back!' lol I think it was when he was about 4 months old, and despite everyone telling 'that's not going to work' I went with my instinct and DS slept thru for the first time! I think it was that feeling of 'I know my baby better than all the professionals, and I know what works for him' that I hadn't had yet as I didn't trust myself. What was your moment?

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hiccamups View Member Profile	06/05/2012, 09:22 PM Post #2
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For me, it was about 12months after DD was born. I loved her, she was mine, but I didn't feel grown up enough to be her Mum. With my second, it happened really quickly.

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Tea~for~two When did you first 'feel' like a Mum 28/04/2012, 08:08 AM

Applebum The midwife that came on for night duty the day I ... 28/04/2012, 08:19 AM

zlca_mummy With my first, it as about 6 months after she was ... 28/04/2012, 08:22 AM

Xiola Hmm..I always thought with my DS1 it was quite lat... 28/04/2012, 08:27 AM

seayork2002 I still don't, not in a PND way or anything I ... 28/04/2012, 08:30 AM

FTM1 For me about 8 weeks I felt comfortable with the t... 28/04/2012, 08:32 AM

MsN With my first, I don't actually know. It was a... 28/04/2012, 08:34 AM

biscotty I still don't most of the time, and my DD is a... 28/04/2012, 08:50 AM

bikingbubs I felt like a mum when DS was born, but I still do... 28/04/2012, 08:54 AM

Freddie'sMum My "feeling like a Mum" moment happened ... 28/04/2012, 08:56 AM

ubermum Some days I still don't and I am 8 months preg... 28/04/2012, 08:56 AM

Tea~for~two Wow - I find it really interesting that people say... 28/04/2012, 09:34 AM

heffalumpsnwoozles When I bought my Mom Jeans. I'm actually stil... 28/04/2012, 09:52 AM

Natttmumm When I was still in hospital and DD had her hearin... 28/04/2012, 12:04 PM

loola DS is almost 11 month and I think I still don... 28/04/2012, 12:17 PM

shoopdeboop I still sometimes hear "Mum" from my 10 ... 03/05/2012, 08:35 PM

miss*k Yeh I think it was a couple of months in, infact m... 04/05/2012, 04:24 PM

Bluenomi I don't know really. I do remember when daycar... 04/05/2012, 05:21 PM

CallMeAl I still don't, really. It's not about conn... 04/05/2012, 05:47 PM

Belu When I arrived back at the ward after having DS af... 04/05/2012, 05:55 PM

*howls* For me, it was about 12months after DD was born. ... 06/05/2012, 09:22 PM

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