[Vickery]

The most concerning thing about this is that you won't tell your DH. Imagine the shoe on the other foot and he held this back from you.

I'm not saying that in the context of how big a deal it is and he deserves to know, but surely in the normal course of conversation about your day it would come up?

This post has been edited by Vickery: 28/04/2012, 09:45 PM

[podg]

It's about that stage that I start changing them on the floor. No place to fall from there.

Poor you. Kids climb, they trip, they misjudge, they drive fast, they get away with so much potential disaster that it's amazing any of us parents retain our sanity.

I would be scared to tell your DH too, it doesn't sound like he's had a similar experience yet. But he will.

This post has been edited by podg: 28/04/2012, 09:47 PM

[suziej]

You know the saying "you don't know how to ride a horse until you have lost count of the times you have fallen off"

I am sure there is a similar saying for motherhood and children's injuries...

I once had a marketing lecturer who said that there is always 2 reasons to do something - the "right" reason and the real reason.

One of the reasons why I have never had a change table is because I was scared the baby would fall (another reason is the bed, floor or lap has always perfectly fine for my purposes)

I do think, however, from your story and comments that you and your husband need to cut each other (or at least him toward you) a little slack in what will happen without hypervigilence.

Good luck.

[Charli73]

Ive done the same thing...

At 7 months DS rolled off our bed onto the floorboards, I felt awful but he cried when I picked him up then he started to laugh once I sang to him so i figured he was ok.... I called DH right away and he was fine, it couldve happened to him anytime too...

Then at 9 months DS rolled head first off the change table onto the floorboards but he did land on the spongy bubba mat which softened the fall but again I felt like such an idiot!!! Again he was fine and Ive learnt my lesson now that he is a wriggly one that I must watch at all times.....

Dont beat yourslef up about it, theyre going to have more spills and falls as they get older...

[jennywin]

Calm down woman!! He is okay!

He cried straight away so thats a good sign, and no concussion symptoms. Take a chill pill.

[danielle1985]

I understand your upset but you are far from the first and far from the last, to have this happen. 3 cubs and mums in my mothers group have had the same thing and the ONLY reason it hasn't happened to me is because we use a mat on the spare bed.

I agree with the PP's comment about "you don't know how to ride a horse until you have lost count of the times you have fallen off". I used to jump a mile when my son fell when he first started walking, with time you learn that falling is a part of learning, just check on them and try to stop it happening again (which you often can't).

As long as you have learnt a lesson from it and he is ok, DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP!

[guilty_mum]

Oh, I've certainly learnt my lesson. Every time I look at my son, I feel awful for what I did. I've been telling him "mummy is so so sorry for letting you fall", but it doesn't make me feel any better about my mistake.. I only wish I could turn back time.

But I "manned up" and told DH just now. Woke him up to tell him. I know I should've told him straight away. He wasn't happy, but he gave me a hug and told me I've been a good mum. We talked it through, and he said that not having known what had happened, DS seemed completely his normal self.

[GoneWithTheWhing...]

Glad you told your husband and that your son is fine, I doubt he even remembers the fall!

As so many people have shared, we all do things that later we think why on earth did we do that?? The main thing you can take away is to make sure it never happens again but please try and stop beating yourself up over it, difficult I know but please try.

I'll just add my husbands story - he parked my eldest daughter in her pram under an apple tree then shook the branch above her to see if any of the apples were loose enough to fall. They were - right on her! He also had the change table fall, I never used it as I was terrified she'd launch off even as a baby but he hated changing her on the floor as it hurt his back so he used the table. I managed to slip on the stairs whilst carrying my 2.5yo and my newborn, that invoked some screeching and crying I can tell you! Not sure if it was them or me that cried hardest after that one, all because the oldest didn't like being left alone whilst I went to fetch the baby.Dumb eh?!

[lilsunniegirl]

Glad you told your hubby and hope you feel better soon..be kind to yourself, youre a great mum, even moreso because you do care so much

[franklet]

He had a fall and he is fine.

The good thing about this is it has possibly prevented a worse accident in the future. I know all the little accidents (ones that cause no harm) are the ones that make me think a lot more about other potentially more dangerous situations.

We all need these little reminders to be careful. It can save us from bigger disasters later on.

STOP feeling so bad, really, smile, be glad he's fine and move on.

And try not to stress about every bump and fall to come. Your baby will be crawling soon and then walking and he will fall down, bump his head and hurt himself. Keep your environment as safe as possible and let him learn without you or your DH getting too stressed.