[anon000]

thanks all

This post has been edited by anon000: 17/04/2012, 11:38 AM

[sandgropergirl]

for me personally? I'd choose C

[ubermum]

It would depend on the financial position of my family. I would choose B or C.

[MakeLoveNotBacon]

What are you misunderstanding?

My choice if possible would be IVF for a girl (can you do that?)

[ani1]

C would the best option.

[anon000]

sorry, I am wondering if I am misunderstanding the seriousness of the illness. I wonder if anyone would TTC naturally with no intention of terminating...

[2bellaboos]

I couldn't terminate a featus or discard an emryo so for me the options are A or D.

OP - this is a very personal decision to make. I know you are just putting your feelers out beause understanding how other's think and feel on the topic somehow how gives you some comfort when it comes time to make the decision but in these circumstances I don't think anyone really knows what they would do unless they've ACTUALLY been in that situation, so please take these responses with a grain of salt.

[~LTM~]

If possible I would use IVF to screen for the disease, but not choose the gender if that makes sense.

[onyerbikeluv]

I'd choose C.

However we were actually thinking about this as our DD has a genetic condition (non-life threatening once managed, doesn't leave her in pain or affect development but a PITA nonetheless). After looking into gender selection for medical reasons we decided to take whatever we were given and try naturally. BUT if DD's condition had been such that the child would be in pain or have a poor quality of life, etc - then no doubt we would have gone with gender selection to rule that out.

In the end our decision was made easy for us as we found out that DD's was a "new mutation" (so genetic condition was not from us), so we are now waiting for #2 who can now expect to be unaffected.

I'm all for letting 'fate' or whatever decide, but then you think about how you would do anything to make life better for your affected child after birth, so why not before birth if you can?

[Guest_holy_j_*]

If money is no object, c). If it was, a) I would research absolute everything on conceiving a girl & follow it to a tee (i know there are no guarantees). If it didn't work, and if I got a boy which was 50/50 chance, I would accept it as being meant to be.

OP, you have to do what's right for you not a bunch of strangers who unless they have been in a similar situation would have no idea on what you are feeling and your options. Probably better to talk to people that have been in a similar position. Best wishes OP.