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How do you tell your friends?, Friends who have experienced loss

franno View Member Profile	16/04/2012, 10:16 AM Post #1
Posts: 711 Joined: 16-September 07
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Hi ladies, Posting this here because I feel safe and not sure where else is the best place to post but feel free to offer suggestions and I'll post. I also know that everything my friends have been through has been experienced here so after some suggestions. In 2 weeks I will tell my friends I am pregnant. Not posting all over Facebook this time as it'll be a risky pregnancy due to thyroid issues. I would have told them earlier but I am deliberately holding off due to their circumstances. So one friend just miscarried at 12 weeks (has 1 child), one friend miscarried in Sept at 12 weeks and cannot get pregnant again, the last friend miscarried after IVF in March at 9 weeks then after IVF just had to terminate after 19 week scan. Despite my history of 2 miscarriages last year I already have my DD and I know they won't be happy to hear this news. I mean of course they will be happy for me but it will be hard for them. I already know that 2 friends I'll email and the other one I'll text but I don't know what to say? I don't want them to have to put on a brave face and gush how thrilled they are and I want to acknowledge I know how hard hearing the news is (DD took 18 months to conceive and we have been trying for this one since Nov 2010) The only reason I am even telling them is that I don't want them to hear it through rumor from other friends. So, after suggestions what to say. I even thought something along the lines of "I know how hard it is to hear this news when you have been through what you have but I wanted you to hear it from me"? Thanks!!

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rubylilysmum View Member Profile	24/04/2012, 07:55 PM Post #2
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Franno - have you let your friends know about your pregancy yet and how did they react. If anyone else is a simliar situation please let these people know presonally by telling themin person or text/email, i can't remember how many times i have been hurt finding out pregnancy news thorugh facebook. And know this is still months away but when your baby is born let the person also know I have recently been hurt by my DS's best friends mum since all I asked of her was to text my once her little girl was born before it hit facebook, her daughter was born in Saturday and I am yet to hear from her Mandy

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franno How do you tell your friends? 16/04/2012, 10:16 AM

rubylilysmum Talking from experience on being on the other side... 16/04/2012, 10:32 AM

emnut You are definitely doing the right thing telling t... 16/04/2012, 12:53 PM

libbylu I think personally in an email is good. You are u... 16/04/2012, 01:01 PM

christmasiscoming I'm a bit late posting on this topic but I jus... 17/04/2012, 11:09 AM

foodster Hi Everyone, I have been lurking for a few weeks ... 24/04/2012, 06:58 PM

rubylilysmum Franno - have you let your friends know about your... 24/04/2012, 07:55 PM

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