[mumandboys]

None of mine are done but their dad is - no one has ever asked any questions.

[pratique]

I find the comparison argument ridiculous.

What if DH and DS1 are blonde and DS2 happened to have brown hair. There are a plethera of differences children can have when compared to eachother. It is hardly psychologically damaging.

[MakeLoveNotBacon]

ds is 5 and not done, dh is. So far no issues with comparing. I guess it might be different with brothers but I think if the need arises, you can gently explain you did what you thought was right at the time but later on you realized it wasn't necessary so decided not to do his brother. Don't talk about regret or anything like that, simply you changed your mind.

[ratbags]

Our 1st born son is circumcised and his 2 brothers are not, honestly the only comparison made is why they have different sized testicles!

Which we explain as being like women having different sized breasts.

[soontobegran]

OP I am in the same position, early on in my first pregnancy I agreed to let DH decide - worst mistake ever What's done is done but I won't let it happen again, unfortunately my DH (who of course is also done) doesn't agree with me. And now my family who didn't agree with getting DS1 done are saying I'd better get DS2 (if this baby is a boy) done so he matches DS1 and DH So I'm on my own with this unfortunately so it is nice to read of someone else in the same predicament.



But they'd stopped doing it by the time her DS1 was born too? They'd stopped here in public hospitals by 2007 when my oldest was born but in our area it hasn't made much of a difference as my son who is done has always been in the majority (mother's group, swimming lessons, preschool.

Clearly the little boys in your areas have not utilised the public system and found themselves a greedy surgeon who is defying AMA recommendations by circumcising OR they have all had ritual circumcisions as it is not possible that they have all had medically necessary circ's.

I understand the family pressure you feel, but ultimately it is your son's right to choose whether he has a foreskin or not so simply tell them that you will leave the option up to him to have one when he is old enough to decide.
As young ones they honestly do not notice each other.
You could also print up some of the many links you've seen on EB and show them why you won't allow another son to have a RPC.
Good luck.

[JJ]

My (intact) son is nearly 11 now and he's never noticed that he's different from his dad... or if he has, it clearly didn't bother him and he hasn't said anything.

He did, however, once have a bath with a circed friend when he was about 5, and noticed his friend's penis had been "cutted off". At the time he was all worried we were going to do the same thing to his.

[FemboFerretOfDoo...]

I find the comparison argument ridiculous.

What if DH and DS1 are blonde and DS2 happened to have brown hair. There are a plethera of differences children can have when compared to eachother. It is hardly psychologically damaging.

Agree.

Apart from that, I find the whole "make him look like Daddy" thing completely perplexing. Surely you can point out that he's got Daddy's eyes, or chin, everyone can see that. Unless both father and son are going to be dropping their daks every time a conversation about family resemblance crops up, who's going to see it?

[MegsW]

Our first two sons are circ'ed but our 3rd isn't done and the older two have never mentioned it and they all shower together and see the younger being changed. If this baby is a boy he won't be done either. It has never been an issue for us and i doubt your sons will worry either.

Stick to your beliefs xxxx

[twilightangel]

I have had no problems with comparing etc between my 2 boys.

My older son had to be done for medical reasons at the age of 4 years. He showers with and changes DS2's nappies occasionally and has never questioned it etc as he knows his had to be fixed where as DS2's is fine.

[PinkSurvivor]

Well My DS1 is done, but he was done at 4 years old due to phimiosis. I won't be getting DS2 done even though DH is also done.

DS1 and DS2 shower together everyday and have not cared. DS1 just says "my doodle got cut so it doesn't hurt anymore hey Mommy" and he says "C didn't get his skin cut off because his wasn't broken" so I guess if a 4 year old can figure it out and not be upset feeling different it shouldn't be an issue.

I honestly think if there is not a big deal made out of being 'different' by the parents than most kids won't make an issue out of it.