[chocolatecrackle]

I hope you're having a better day today!

Pooks also I very often use the "lets start again" method. Redo bathtime, nice and warm and calm, redo massage, new wondersuit etc. I also very often use mah boobs and let her fall asleep on it.

On night 4 of sleep school, after DS had worn me and two nurses out trying to calm him down, that's exactly what they recommended and what finally worked. It's such a relief to get out of the dark room, get away from the screaming, and do something that makes both you and bubs happy.

[Pooks*potters]

He's still being a nightmare but thanks for all the support.

[Ianthe]

Oh honey. Maybe a trip to the doctor or the clinic and get him checked? Are YOU ok?

Do you know I would so happily hold someone's screaming baby to give them a break? I don't want my own anymore but other people's babies crying doesn't stress me out. Is there someone you can call for back up tomorrow. You have the cute newborn-you have all the power

[Jenflea]

It's amazing how you don't get stressed out by someone else's crying baby! I was really good at getting my niece to sleep, but an anxious, emotional mess with my own 15 years later lol.

[Ianthe]

I think it is because I have had five kids. I found even my fourth and fifth babies crying didn't stress me out too much. I was upset for them but usually didn't need to cry myself like I felt with my first child

[Pooks*potters]

Is it that bad to let him cry. I know he's ok ie. fed, warm, burped, dry, and he keeps falling asleep but doesn't stay asleep. He has been awake since 4.30 it's 9 now, he has only slept about 3 hours total since 9am. I really didn't want to do this but I wonder if it's the only thing left to do. Tell me if it's bad and why because that might motivate me not to do it. Otherwise I am going to let him cry

[lucky 2]

It is Sunday night, can your dp or another adult come and hold your baby to give you a break. I used to occasionally get a friend around for a couple of hrs in the evenings when things were really bad, to support both myself and dp. We didn't do it much but it helped. I also had MIL come for a few nights a couple of times in the first 6 months, she didn't do much except hold dd but that was something (except when I was trying to sleep and I could hear dd, she was quite an unhappy bub with silent reflux and just being that type of bub).
Best wishes.

[**Mel**]

Pookems, you do what you have to do.

Can you pass him over to DH while you go and have a shower/nap? My own DH's 'shift' started at about 7:00pm and went till 11:00.

I would have cluster fed DD till 7, then handed her over and gone to bed myself. Sometimes he got her to sleep, sometimes he would just let her cry on his shoulder while patting her

He could stand the crying more than I could, having worked all day and not having to listen to it.

Then, I would get up at 11:00 and take over.

Or
- put him in the pram and push back and forth over a loose carpet edge, door trim
- another bath, in dim light, then massage
- wrapped really tightly
- feed. Are you b/feeding...my motto was 'if in doubt, get ya boobs out'
- and feed to sleep. DD sleeps like a trooper now (apart for day naps, she is 3) and was b/fed to sleep for an awful long time

[bettymm]

Pooks, have you taken him to the GP or MACH nurse to have a quick check?

I think before you make any decisions about letting him cry its probably best just to rule out there isnt anything physically wrong.. even just for your own peace of mind.

Look, i think if you have exhausted all other options of trying to get him to sleep , he is probably over tired and in this case he will probably have a good scream for a while before he can finally settle.

I often do the 10 minute rule. If ive tried everything else and they just really need to sleep...pop him down, wait ten minutes and then go in and resettle/feed/ even a calming bath /massage and pop him down again. I think he will eventually pass out.

Good luck!!! ive just had to resettle my own three times but i think she has finally gone off. fingers crossed x

Edited to add: Not ten minutes of absolute blue murder screaming..but that on and off grizzling

This post has been edited by bettymm: 15/04/2012, 09:26 PM

[Penguin78]

Pookems-for tonight do.whatever you need to do to get him to sleep. Feed.to.sleep, co-sleep, rock him all night. Then tomorrow, go.see your GP or MCHN and get a referral to a sleep school or if u can afford it ring and book in for a private one.

There is nothing like profession.al help that has your baby qbs your needs at heart.

Best thing I ever did for my confidence and my and my baby's sleep.

Lots of us have been through this, u r not alone. And its not your fault or yilour babys.

hugs x