[Ianthe]

You are not failing! There is a million things to figure out with babies.

[mum201]

That sounds very very much like reflux to me. Pooks, it's the world's hardest job being a mum, but something you will find out soon is that it is the world's most rewarding one too. It sounds like you are in the middle of reflux, plus a baby's most screamy period in their life. If you can get the reflux sorted, the rest will pass in a few weeks. Honestly, it gets wayyyy better soon. Hang in there.

And if you feel like you are getting very negative, please see your GP re possible PND. You are capable, you are doing a great job I am sure, it's just really full on!

[nicknick]

Agree with PP's you are not failing, you are a great mum trying so hard to help your beautiful son. It is so hard being a new mum and working out what is wrong (if only they could tell you). Agree it does sound like pain & maybe reflux - definitely take him to get looked at, and if you aren't happy with the 1st answer seek a 2nd opinion. Hope he settles soon for you.

[MrsDamonSalvator...]

as a pp suggested, raise his cot. with ethan i used my cookbooks lol. also, another thing the nurses suggested that really helped ethans reflux, is tumble dry or iron a teatowel so its nice and warm and wrap it tightly around his tummy. if it is reflux, one of those hugabubs will be your lifesaver

[Pixar]

You poor thing. I don't know if you have tried this, but try propping up the head end of his basinette. Either under the legs or a folded towel or small blanket u der the mattress. It may help keep the stomach contents Dow where they should be.

Hoping you get some answers soo and your precious boy gets some much needed sleep.

[Pixar]

Double post

This post has been edited by Pixar: 16/04/2012, 09:44 PM

[Mummy Em]

Pookems, I was trying to pm you but can't for some reason. I know a website with some wraps and carriers on special, if you are interested. Might help a bit if you can keep him upright.

[*the*lucky*one*]

Wow your post brings back all the memories. My first daughter had reflux and was a total nightmare. Slept on average 4 hours a day in broken blocks. I was a mess. My poor mother came in to find my daughter screaming in her bassinet and me sobbing uncomfortable on the floor, I never thought it would end. Milanta before and in the middle of her feed finally did the trick. I also propped up her matress and wrapped her tightly.

Goodluck OP I hope you find something that works.

[lucky 2]

You are not failing but you are struggling.
I think its a great idea to see the GP tomorrow, for bub and for you.
And we are here for you, you don't have to do without us.

FWIW, I didn't cope well with new motherhood and did develop PND but what I felt most was anxiety, lack of confidence, misery, distress and eventually an absolute inability to cope with dd crying, I'd lose the plot. But I got better with time and professional help.

Best wishesx

[TheAP]

I am really failing at this ...

You have a newborn who isn't sleeping yet you've tried rocking, singing, patting, driving, walking, feeding, bathing, nursing, comforting, cuddling and God knows what else.

When none of these have seemed to be working you've turned to other mothers fir advice and help.

You're going to seek medical help and advice.

Tell me again how you're failing? Sweetheart, while ever you are responding to your baby's needs you cannot possibly be failing at being his mother. You are doing everything you can think of to help him. That makes you a good mother in my book.

DS was a shocking sleeper as well and I used to wrap him tightly, stand in our shower recess with the water running and breast feed him whilst rocking side to side. It helped that our bathroom had no external light so was pitch black when I closed the door. If in doubt, I tried to make whatever I was doing be as womb-like as possible in those early days. Dark, warm, restricted movement for him, motion for me, food.

It does get better.