[erica2012]

I realised the other day I haven't spoken with my MIL since christmas 2010. My friend thinks this is slack. My DH, her son, speaks to her every four or five months and keeps her up-to-date with the news.

I sent her an easter card a month ago with photos of her grandson.

I don't know where the time goes - I am so busy with my son, my part-time work and taking care of DH.
We live in different states and often it's difficult to judge the best time to call

Or, am I pretty slack?
My friend thinks so.



I am due to have another baby in July and might phone her then.

This post has been edited by erica2012: 13/04/2012, 05:43 PM

[~Catherine~]

Yesterday on the phone ..... personally I think it is pretty slack ...it's not that hard for YOU to call her and tell her how her grandchild is going or just call and say hello. Call if it is a bad time, I am sure she will tell you.

[lsolaBella]

My folks live interstate and if I haven't phoned them for 3 days they start to panic. Some days I talk multiple times a day with them (good having a phone plan which allows this).

MIL lives in the same town. If it wasn't for the fact that I drop DS2 off to her place one day a week (for some one on one Nanna time) I would not speak to her otherwise (although DH talks to her daily).

My brother lives in EU. I will admit that I will only speak to him a few times a year (usually birthdays).

Whatever works for your relationship.

[Guest_tigerdog_*]

This morning. I had to let her know the insurance company would be ringing her as her husband (father of my late DP) was named as a beneficiary on DP's life insurance policy and they want to know his claim intentions. Let's see if they make a claim, then I can say whether I'll be talking to them again or not (just joking!).

[follies]

I never met her to begin with! The Step-MIL is a grouchy cow so we stay away and wish nasty things upon her.

[irisis]

I guess it depends on your relationship with her. If you have no problems, then maybe you should call her more often, or jump on when DH calls.

I usually don't go out of my way to talk to the IL's. They are local so I see them at least every couple of weeks with DH.

[butterflydreamin...]

That is slack. Do talks to my mother a few times a week while I talk to her daily. As for his parents we see them a few times a week and talk daily.

[~Flick~]

On the phone? Probably 3-4 times a week, and that's just for a chat -- not because we have to. And my PIL only live 8 minutes away! Then I would see them probably once a week on average.

Christmas 2010 - yes that's slack. But has she made any attempt to contact you? Maybe she senses you don't want to talk to her?

This post has been edited by ~Flick~: 13/04/2012, 05:54 PM

[countrymel]

My DP and I have been together for 12 years and I have NEVER called her in all that time!

I do speak to her - when I answer the phone and she's called but we aren't phone you up buddies (obviously!)

I think your DH only calling her a couple of times a year is pretty slack TBH..

[threelittlegems]

I phone my MIL for a chat (or vice versa) at least once per week. I last spoke to her on Wednesday afternoon.

We did have an awful argument and didn't speak to each other for the whole of 2009. It was horrible.