[Etcetera]

Baby showers are fine.
It's the gift registries or the 'only buy x, y or z, no a, b or c' stuff that annoys me and makes it all about the presents.

[SofaSpud]

I love to go to high teas and lunches etc before the baby is born. I love buying baby presents. I would, however, pay seriously good money to not have to participate in games involving disposable nappies.

LOL, I love all the silly games but my one request to my friends organising mine was that we don't play any games involving nappies and fake poo!

[SeaPrincess]

I didn't know they were ever the done thing - I've only been to about 5 ever. 3 were a complete surprise to the expectant mother (including mine), and the other 2 were just the girls going out for lunch, some people brought gifts, but not all.

But if someone wanted to throw one and involve me in the organisation, I'd probably try to go down the lunch-no-presents route.

R

[futureself]

I like them, but I've only been to a couple where the emphasis was on getting together with loved ones and was 'high tea' style with fabulous food and drinks provided. Gifts were small - funky socks etc
Once a Wishing well or registry is involved then you've lost me. And games with fake poo. So Weird.
I know that my female best friend and sisters will throw me one like or or not but it will be the high tea style with no mention of gifts.

[mumandboys]

I never had one, but I think they're perfectly acceptable for a first baby.

I don't really like going to baby showers (but do love buying gifts for babies!!)

[itsaboysworld]

ive just been invited to a baby shower, by the expectant mother and her mother....the mum-to-be fell pg at 18 halfway through yr 12. While I wouldnt be unsupportive, I dont know I'd feel the need to throw a party.

[eilca]

ive just been invited to a baby shower, by the expectant mother and her mother....the mum-to-be fell pg at 18 halfway through yr 12. While I wouldnt be unsupportive, I dont know I'd feel the need to throw a party.

Yes, let's keep this pregnancy low key. Tsk Tsk. I mean, after all, if they have made an informed decision to keep the baby there is no need to be joyous and happy about it.

I hope you do not go to the shower.

[Bek+3]

I choose option b. Shameless gift grabbing.

[Jess1]

ive just been invited to a baby shower, by the expectant mother and her mother....the mum-to-be fell pg at 18 halfway through yr 12. While I wouldnt be unsupportive, I dont know I'd feel the need to throw a party.

I fell pregnant unexpectedly at a young age and it doesn't mean the pregnancy should not be celebrated. Thank god I had supportive people around me and this girl will need that as well. I would prefer to go to a baby shower for someone like this.

For the OP, I'm not a massive fan of them but will go along and generally enjoy them as long as I don't get told what to buy and we don't play stupid games.

[soontobegran]

ive just been invited to a baby shower, by the expectant mother and her mother....the mum-to-be fell pg at 18 halfway through yr 12. While I wouldnt be unsupportive, I dont know I'd feel the need to throw a party.

Not so sure about this?
As someone who has cared for many 18 year olds with surprise babies I could not say that most of them aren't as welcomed into the family as any other nor are they as disadvantaged as some whom from the outside seem to have 'done it the right way'.