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What do you say to people who pity you for having a December baby?

Guest_Retro_Mumma_*	12/04/2012, 03:09 PM Post #1


I know so many people TTCing at the moment that have said to me that they were not going to try last month because they didnt want a December baby. People have said that they feel sorry for people born in December because their birthday is so close to Christmas and dont want that for their child. DH and I tried for over a year to get pregnant so I couldnt care less if bub is born on Christmas Day, just as long as she/he is healthy. Has anyone experienced this "oh poor you/ poor child" kind of thing when you have told them bub is due in December? Any tips on what to say?

ILoveChristmas View Member Profile	12/04/2012, 03:17 PM Post #2
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Yes and I have had the "poor child" comments about my DD. She is born a few days before Christmas. I just tell people we will always make a special effort to have DDs birthday seperate from Christmas. She has had one birthday so far and it turned out to be great as everyone was in the celebrating spirit only days before Christmas, noone had gone away yet and the weather was just beautiful.

bubzillaiscoming View Member Profile	12/04/2012, 03:18 PM Post #3
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My birthday is 9/12 and my younger sister is 23/12. We have both turned out ok! I never really received any comments - probably cos my sister got them all! Depending when your bub is due, I would say you'll probs only get comments if it is sometime after the 20th of Dec or before the 10th of Jan. Generally speaking it can be difficult with parties and so on, but at the end of the day, I would just look blankly at the person and politely ask WHY it is a problem - such a lovely time of year, people are happy and so on. MUCH better than having a WINTER baby I would think. I would just ignore them, but as a personal tip - just make sure you always wrap bub's presents in birthday paper - not xmas paper

Charmzy View Member Profile	12/04/2012, 03:20 PM Post #4
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Ignore it, there is always going to be something they will have e negative comment about. I get the same sort of 'sympathy' comments over 2 of my daughters sharing the same birthday.

-HungryWoman- View Member Profile	12/04/2012, 03:21 PM Post #5
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My DD was born on the 24th Dec. Does it really matter what other people say??? I couldnt care less:) We always make an effort for her birthday so thats all that matters

Leha View Member Profile	12/04/2012, 03:22 PM Post #6
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Do people actually stop TTC just to avoid a Xmas baby. That's so ridiculous. Mine is the 5th and it probably not close enough to be an issue but I love this time of the year to have a bday. It's the party season, it's warm and everybody is happy this time of the year. Any birthday parties are in warm weather. I would not want to have a birthday any other time of the year.

fillesetjumeaux View Member Profile	12/04/2012, 03:23 PM Post #7
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A baby is a baby is a baby, regardless of their birthday! While mine are not December, I have 3 in the first 9 days of January, and the other 2 towards the end of January. TBH, if it was just one, it wouldn't register on my "bovvered" radar at all. My comeback if anyone felt the need to comment would be something smartarse like "all 365 days are created equal". (But I do NOT recommend having 5 children all born in the same month, being the month straight after Christmas. Really, really bad non-planning in our house.)

tanj View Member Profile	12/04/2012, 03:24 PM Post #8
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I just say its a wonderful time of year, everyone is happy and in the festive spirit, so another reason to celebrate! We make an effort in June, to have a special day where our little one gets to choose a day out, fav food and new present!

Maple Leaf View Member Profile	12/04/2012, 03:29 PM Post #9
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DD1 was due xmas eve but arrived on dec 19th instead. She loves her birthday and that it's so close to xmas. The people who pity her are the ones with the problem. She feels her birthday is special and I wouldn't have her think otherwise. It was kinda fun having a newborn laying under the tree for xmas too. She was my present that year.

amoral lemur View Member Profile	12/04/2012, 03:31 PM Post #10
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I am one of those silly people who avoided the Christmas baby. My best friend at primary school absolutely hated being born on Christmas Day so I thought it kindest to avoid that if possible. A relative has her birthday on 1st january and gets upset when people promise to come and then are hang over and don't bother. So those are the events that influenced my bahviour but I would never comment on anyone else's children's birth dates.

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