[jusstyce]

My Best friend is getting married this year. I am matron on honour so obviously will be in the bridal party. She is inviting my DH and letting him bring a friend. My DH does not know her family or anyone going to the wedding at all other than the bride and groom and myself. DH doesn't want to go to the reception as he thinks it's a bit suss rocking up with his best mate to a wedding his best mate knows no one at [and who's wife might not like it lol] and DH doesn't want to go alone as he knows no one and I will be sitting at the bridal party table and going for photo's etc. My best friend thinks it's rude and horrible he isn't coming I sort of don't blame DH.
Just wondering what others think?

[podg]

Does DH have a sister/niece/favourite aunty etc who he gets on with and would like to go to a wedding? That might seem less suss than a best mate, no worries with the wives or people wondering who the male couple are...

My dad took his recently widowed SIL to a wedding while my mum was away. She loved it and he had company. It worked for everyone.

[jusstyce]

Nope he doesn't, he only has a brother and thats it, he doesn't have any family really

[niggles]

What is suss about taking a friend to an event you've been invited to? I must be missing something. I guess I'd be miffed too. She's made an attempt to make him comfortable by giving him a +1 and he's still not coming. Since you are matron of honour I assume he is a part of her life?

He doesn't have to come but he should admit his reasons are to please himself and not because he wasn't properly thought of or accomodated for.

[Spring Chickadee]

If it were important to the bride I would ask my dh to just go along and have a good time, it's a free feed and a good dance with a friend he can bring along. It doesn't sound that painful!

[Jellyblush]

Hi - I can see why it'd be hard for your DH on the day. but sorry, I think he needs to suck it up. It's only a few hours, it's for your best friend and therefore for you ...you might eat at the head table but will be there for dancing etc.
He should be able to have a good chat to others on his table - wedding receptions are friendly places, and it's easy to chat about the day to break the ice.

[jusstyce]

Nope he doesn't, he only has a brother and thats it, he doesn't have any family really

[Like a tiger]

so he doesn't want to witness your best friends making a commitment to her partner because he doesn't know other guests? I think that's slightly rude as he's been given the opportunity to bring a guest he knows to the wedding but is saying he won't come as he doesn't want to socialise with others he doesn't know. It is a few hours in a whole lifetime that they want to share with yourself and you husband, I think he should suck it up and take a friend or family member and share in their happiness.

[jusstyce]

DH rarely sees my best friend she lives 5 hours away and he has only met her fiance once. Maybe I am too lenient I sort of didn't blame him as he does suffer anxiety but thinking I should tell him to suck it up.

[JustBeige]

can he take his brother then? Does he get on with someone from your side? maybe your mum or sibling? I know my mum would go with DH if he needed her to.

I understand the social awkwardness of going solo to a wedding, but he's not really. You will be there funnily enough.

His brother is more to keep him company for when you are off doing MoH duties. Apart from eating and photos, my BM's and MOH's were no were near our table at our wedding. They were with their partners/friends.

Another thought. Do you have a decent camera? Maybe your DH can tag along to the photos take free shots for your friend. This will give him something to do and he wont need to take an extra person or feel totally awkward.