[Pearson]

Before I had DS, I had the partying life, and as he got older, we started this up a bit more, parties out the back yard, some other kids over, it was a bit of a party with everyone, not like before, everyone was cool.

Now, since DD, no real parties anymore, would rather be at home with the kids.

[JustBeige]

Yes absolutely. My single childless friends would be bored silly with my life now.

I once did have that urban myth experience of someone saying to me "so what do you do?" when I replied "Well I've just become a mum" his eyes glazed over, he smiled weakly, said Oh and walked away.

DH and I burst into laughter because we never thought that people would actually do that.

I also find as I get older, I am more picky about what friends bring to my life and what I can contribute to theirs. I am more selective these days as I truly have no patience for people who have OTT expectations on what friends should and shouldn't do. I have lots more acquaintances, but less true friends and that is all good because these true friends accept me as I am and vice versa.

[aimee28]

I think mostly my friendships are just different - definitely not as close to some anymore and closer to others that I wasn't to before having a child. I think it's because I've changed, much more than I realised I would, and as a result there are times where I feel pretty lonely.

[~shannon~]

I have probably no 'deep' level friends anymore (i.e. the ones who I would share EVERYTHING with), and I really miss it. It's probably not so much been due to children, as distance - my best friend is in the UK, next one moved to Brisbane, and although I'm still close with the bestie, it's not the same as when you can be in each other's daily lives.

I have no idea how to change it.

Me too Al. I moved to a new town last July and have since made a few friends, but no one yet who I could call close... hopefully over time I will. My three closest friends live a million miles away and we rarely email, text or phone. And it's not just that I'm not putting in the effort to maintain the friendship, they aren't either. We are all too busy with our children and our lives... I always try to remember birthdays and special occasions, and have sent presents for various reasons. I skype two of them occasionally, but it's not the same as sitting together having a coffee and chat. I miss them a lot.

[greenacre]

Yes esp all my childhood friends live O/S. But it doesn't bother me, its part of being an adult; people move on etc.
I have few but very good friends, I'm happy with that

[*~*MagicHour*~*]

Since falling pregnant and having my son (who is only 5 months old) I've made a lot of online friends (some who I have met up with) as well as some good friendships with some lovely ladies through mothers group.

As for my pre-baby friends - well it's too early to tell if I will keep them all. I only have a few close friends and would see them 4-5 times a year so with my DS now I imagine that time will be a little less, especially for this first year of his life as I am putting him first and not trying to have a great social life. I'm sure that once he is a little older and hopefully easier to manage in the daytime I will be able to rekindle some of my friendships that seem a little lost at the moment - and if I can't then those people just aren't meant to be friends with the mummy version of me