[Guest_Retro_Mumma_*]

I dont think it would hurt to start trying.

The reality is that most people dont fall pregnant the first time the try, even if they are young and healthy.

[~katiez~]

If I were you and basing some TTC concerns around premature menopause then I would go to the GP and get my AMH (anti-mullerian hormone) tested. It is called the "egg timer" hormone because it gives a fairly good indication of your ovarian reserves. If you do show low levels - start now. If it comes back normal - wait. That's what I'd do

[MelbChick]

Hi OP
Your reasons are your own...nobody else can tell you what a "good" reason is. Only you can decide what you're likely to regret later on.
I agree with PPs who have said you should get your hormone levels checked if you are worried about the menopause thing. Preusming everything's okay, and if it were me (which you're not!!) I would get married, enjoy honeymoon, enjoy sister's wedding, enjoy anything else you would like to enjoy before you get pregnant so that when you've got a new baby and have those days where you feel frustrated and like you can't do anything or go anywhere, you can look back on the great things you were able to enjoy when it was time to enjoy them.
I used to work in a bridal shop and I can guarantee you just about every bride who started trying before the wedding fell pregnant and we were always doing alterations for this reason! But alterations to a dress are very do-able! Alterations to your life-history are kind of impossible Picture your ideal wedding and go for it! ... and don't underestimate the 'all-consumingness' of pregnancy - it's nice to prepare for it and make time and space for it in your life. I think the advice to prepare yourselves physically is fantastic advice! Particularly if you'd like an easier pregnancy and a good recovery from birth, it's all pretty hard on your body So that would also be a good reason to delay if you're not exactly where you want to be health and fitness-wise. You'll thank yourself later, trust me!! Best wishes with this exciting time, it all sounds great

[Goggie]

I think it's best to not worry about it. Get your pre-conception check up, start taking a multivitamin, cut down on alcohol and coffee and eat well. I would wait until after the wedding if that was your original plan. It would be awful to have morning sickness at your wedding and on your honeymoon.

I agree with this part^^. morning sickness sucks and for some lasts all day. The exhaustion really takes it out of you and having planned my wedding, at the time I needed all the energy I could get. It's a busy day and an even busier lead up. Personally I'd spend the time getting your body in check, charting your cycles, getting naturopath or acupuncture assistance in getting those back on track and then you'll be good to go. And regarding your mum and sister, they will not be disappointed in you. They will be over the moon for you and your new husband, just disappointed that you won't be there. I have rarely heard a grandmother who is disappointed in her newly married daughter having a baby:)
In saying that, you've got to do what you want. My sister was 16 weeks pregnant when she got married, was not remotely sick, was a bit tired but loved her new boobs and cleavage!
You will never know how pregnancy will affect you until you're there, hopefully you're one of the lucky ones!

[ms flib]

I think you should TTC when you want to. If your plan was after the wedding do it then. Enjoy your life as a couple as much as you can before you're pregnant and have children. Maybe your sister will fit her wedding in with your pregnancy and as you say, there are no guarantees!

I'm not married and have children so I'm not saying this because I think you should be married!

[AvadaKedavra]

See other threads recently about overseas travel while pregnant and insurance - and make sure you don't go to your sisters wedding in the US without adequate insurance!

Everything else doean't really matter and is probably not worth over thinking. If you want a baby, try. If you want to wait until the wedding, then do. You may get pregnant first go. You may take a year. These things are unpredictable!

[Plappermaul]

I was about 16 weeks pregnant with our 'total surprise but very much wanted' baby on our wedding day. I was ok on the day itself but really, really tired by the end of the night. The honeymoon was in Tahiti and I was sick for the entire two weeks. Every bit of travel (plane, boat, taxi) had me vomiting. I couldn't eat any of the food without vomiting. I lived off hot chips, nutella, bread and pancakes, I kid you not. We still had a beautiful holiday and looking back, all those random vomits into bushes out the front of sw**ky hotels was kind of funny... Of course, our beautiful daughter is so worth all that sickness! If I could do it again though, I would go on a cheaper honeymoon with less travel and more familiar food and save Tahiti for another time.

[futureself]

If I were you and basing some TTC concerns around premature menopause then I would go to the GP and get my AMH (anti-mullerian hormone) tested. It is called the "egg timer" hormone because it gives a fairly good indication of your ovarian reserves. If you do show low levels - start now. If it comes back normal - wait. That's what I'd do

Yep, this.
And then depending on these results, This:

Unless there is a medical reason (speak to your GP about your concerns) I would wait until after your sister's wedding. You are still very young and have years left for babies. Enjoy your wedding, honeymoon, your sister's wedding, settle into married life and then have your babies. This is probably not what you want to hear, but trust people who have been there before you, there is no rush.

[Plappermaul]

Gah! Stupid double post.

And how funny that it has blanked out blanked out sw@nky... Lol EB.

This post has been edited by Plappermaul: 09/04/2012, 07:40 PM

[Hooray Henry]

I agree with the posters that have suggested AMH testing, getting your pre-conception health checks done and starting on the vitamins etc.............. and then waiting. Morning sickness is bloody horrible. I suffer badly from it, and if you are excited about your wedding, and your beautiful dress, it would be a shame to spend the wedding reception and honeymoon lying on a couch somewhere and vomiting, because that can be the reality.

Good luck with your decision!