[niggles]

Thoughts? I was teaching in a girls school when pregnant with my daughter and so I understand the dilemma with liking a name but it being the same as someone you know. But truly there are so many many names to choose from. I think it very unlikely that the two names you like most just happen to be the same as your friend. I'd go back to the drawing board. I'm sure you'll find the perfect name.

[samanthan]

I really dislike both names very strongly and even if I did like them, I would never use the same name as a friend.

[kerilyntaryn]

I wouldnt use the same name

and if you were going to use one Neveah - I'd spell it like this, but use a different mn

but there are some many other names out there to choose from and more than likely you'll change your mind when the time comes

[PackedToTheRafte...]

I named my son Eli Luke.
2 years later my Best Friend, who I see often was due to give birth to a boy. She called and said, of all the boys names she considered Eli was the only one she loved.
I told her to use it because she is way more important than a name and I want her to be happy. She has Eli Jacob.
Now we have Eli and baby Eli when we're together.

If she's a true friend, she won't care. But I would tell her before :-)
Goodluck!

[PurpleButterflys...]

Interesting responses, thanks all who have given constructive advice as per OP.
Packedotherafters: Thank you for sharing your story regarding a simillar situation.
Buymeapony: Im unsure as to what your post means, let alone its relevance to the topic

Thanks again, I like all the vast opinions on the subject.

[sweetcheekz]

A friend of mine ( who I am no longer friends with now) named her daughter the exact same first and middle name and our last names began with the same letter also. I put a lot of thought into naming my DD and was extreamly upset when I received the birth announcement in the mail only a few months after my DD was born. When I asked her about it she said she loved the name when I told her so just had to use it too, I found it really weird

This post has been edited by sweetcheekz: 08/04/2012, 02:08 PM

[Unatheowl]

That's a really bad idea. For so many reasons.

Perhaps in answer to your questions bmap thinks:

A) calling her neveah chance who your friends baby is called chance neveah = bad idea
B) calling her neveah chance = bad idea.



Just a guess...

[samshine]

Maybe discuss it with her first if you're worried?

We've just had DD2. We decided the day she was born to name her Clara but my only reservation was friends have a 3 year old Clara. We only see them 1-2 times per year although are in touch more often. We decided to contact them to say we'd just had a baby, the name was on our list, so were other names so not to feel pressured but how would they feel if we called her Clara? They were really encouraging and fine about it. My friend said it was nice to know others liked the name!

It did mean I had to change my idea of the middle name. I had hoped to use my mums middle name as a middle name if we had a girl, however, my mums middle name is the same name as their other daughter and we thought that would be a bit too weird for us and them.

I think having two names the same that are that unusual a bit much... I can understand being set on a certain name as a first name but would you consider a different middle name?

[password123]

I cannot understand why you are even thinking about this now.
If I were the friend and found out I would think "weird".
Can't you think up your own names for your yet-to-be-conceived child?

[Apageintime]

My 2 best friends both have babies named Mary with similar middle names, both had VERY strong family connections to the name/s and neither minded the other has a similar named little one.

I would think, in your situation using relatively common names that have strong family connections would be alright, but a 'new' name like Nevaeh, which has no connection or meaning to you would be creepy.

In my opinion - there are so many lovely names out there without needing to use the same crap name as your friend.