[SeaPrincess]

I went to my school reunion when DS1 was about 21 months old and left DH and DS home alone. They were fine. I don't think he ever had a time with just the boys. I went away for a weekend with my book club girls when DD was about 8 months old. DH went to his mother's, which was nearby, and brought DD to me for BF, otherwise I wouldn't have gone.

[hayleymumof3]

First time for DD1 she was 17 months old and I was having DS. And again when DS was 5.5 weeks old when he had pyloric stenosis

DS was 8 months old when I flew to Perth for 4 days for my sister wedding.

Then again for a week when DD1 was 3 and DS was 17months when my grandfather was sick and passed away.

again when DD1 was 4 and DS was 3 when DD2 was born and again when she was in hospital for pyloric stenosis.


And have done a lot more since then for various reasons, He is their father he knows how to care for them.

Why have children with a man you are unsure about leaving your kids with

This post has been edited by hayleymumof3: 08/04/2012, 01:03 PM

[Studybug]

Why have children with a man you are unsure about leaving your kids with

Hi there

Not sure if this is a question posed to me, or just a general rhetoric question but if to me, this is not the case for my family and I agree with the sentiment of what you're saying.

[Studybug]

I guess whether or not the length of time is strange really depends on whether you're the sort of person who goes away a lot; if not, going years before leaving a child overnight isn't strange. If so, being unwilling to leave them, and I guess losing a part of yourself, would seem more worrisome to me.

This is a good point, Ange V. I'm not someone who goes away alot it turns out lol.

[BronR]

DH didn't look after DS overnight until he was about 2 from memory. But he did look after him solo during the day/evening from birth so it wasn't a problem when I finally did go away for a few nights for work.

The next time would have been for a whole week when DS was 2.4 when I was in hospital having DD.

[tinkster23]

I went back to work (night shifts ) when Hannah was 10 weeks old so dh had Hannah then. Jack not til about 6 months.

[Ella mum]

I am not sure of the first time I left DH overnight with our oldest. Would've been after 12 months though. Only due to breastfeeding. He is just as much a parent as me. The only think he can't do is breastfeed and neither of mine would take a bottle!!

[Kitty-N]

Wow my DH had his first "overnighter" when the girls were only 5 months old, but we had the luxury of Formula fed babies. I haven't done it since, but if I had a reason, I wouldn't hesitate. He was fine with them.

[Wigglemama]

I am a shift worker so dh regularly looks after our children overnight and has all their lives. I have also had several nights away, when my grandmother died and when I went away with my friends when dh was solely responsible. It really isn't a big deal. He is their father after all.

[katniss]

The only time would've been when I gave birth to DS2. Other than that, there has not been the opportunity. I'm a SAhM right now so there are no work trips, I don't have close enough friends to have weekends away with them & all my family live in the same state as me so I've never needed to go away for events.

If the opportunity arose then I would have no hesitation in leaving the boys with DH. He is a very hands on father & the boys adore spending time with him so I would not give it a second thought.