[springrose]

Just wanted to know what do you think, if you are 100% totally sure you want to have a kid when you are doing family planning. As a woman, are you 100% committed and sure that you want to have a child? I am not, and have been in this state for a while. While I am not totally sure if I want to have a kid, I definitely was upset when I found out that I had poly cystic ovarian syndrome. Some people say you should have kids when you are totally sure, but there is another aspect where age is a concern too, don't want to have it too late. So I am kind of in a dilemma. Should I start planning pregnancy if I am 70% sure I want to have a kid?

[erindiv]

The only person who can answer that question is you.

I was 100% sure both times. I wouldn't do it personally unless I was 100%, but for some people there is always that small % that is nervous/scared/whatever that never goes away. Only you know your personality that deeply.

Good luck with making your decision.

[pratique]

Oh I was not sure at all!

I had been trying to 'want to want to have kids' IYKWIM for two years before trying. Never had' that' feeling.

When I fell pregnant straight away, I was happy but still unsure.

My DS is now 16 months. Best thing I ever did. Can't wait to try for number 2.

[4WD_Baby#1]

I wasnt sure. But 16 weeks into pregnancy i am sooo sure! A lot of people i know are currently pregnant. It helps to have company.

[ubermum]

I wasn't totally sure until after I met dh. Before that, I didn't think I wanted children at all.

I'm not sure about a 3rd, but it's due next month.

This post has been edited by ubermum: 04/04/2012, 10:41 PM

[newbubz]

No I didn't really want kids. I've never had the urge to have biological children but my DH was super keen. When I found out I was pregnant I was happy but still didn't really know how I felt about having a baby.

DS is nearly 7 months now and he is the best thing I've ever done, I love him more then any words could express and we're trying for number 2 now!

[*Greenbag*]

The older I get, the less sure I am. I'm really clucky, but intellectually the idea of having a baby is becoming increasingly disconcerting. But I think I'll be over the moon when I'm actually pregnant. I think for some people, like me, it's a case of closing my eyes and jumping.

[futureself]

I think there is a difference in not being sure you want kids at all and still having doubts about the right time. I wouldn't have tried to wait for a time where I had absolutely no doubts -,that time wouldn't have come. Wanted and planned for pregnancies still bring fear, doubts, what ifs and uncertainty.

[themelster]

I wasnt sure at all either. DH & I had been married 9 years & I was 35 years old. It was a now or never situation & I didn't want to get to 40 & suddenly have my clock start ticking but potentially be too late - so we started trying.....

.... I fell pregnant within a month. DS is now 3.5 years old and I wouldn't put him back for quids Our life wouldn't be the same without him.

This post has been edited by themelster: 04/04/2012, 10:09 PM

[NotBitzerMaloney]

I wasn't anything like 100% sure. Hell, I'm about to have #2 and I'm still not 100% sure.

If you think you would regret having a child, then really think about what you are doing. Seriously, you can look at the phrase "life changing" in two different ways, positive and negative.

My DH wanted a kid - a million percent. It was kind of a pre-condition. Without that, I'm not sure if I would have gotten over the line.

And if I had waited for my biological clock to start ticking.... Well, that window would have been well and truly shut if that day ever came.