[StudyMuffin]

Agh bitten off way more than I can chew at the moment and I'm coming in here for moral support and reassurances (and stories) of survival through the craziness.

I am doing three units.
*One is Law - compulsory and part of my degree but not my strong point or interest.I have a presentation due next week, I haven't been able to get to one lecture due to DS and distance.
*One has 3 x 2,000 word essays and 1 x 4,000 word.
*The other has a group project which makes up 45% of my grad for the unit and none of my group can spell simple words ... think 'iz' instead of 'is' and my name which is a really common name - no one in the group has managed to spell it correctly yet.

I have a casual job, which is currently quite busy. It's about 8 hours a week.

I have a 2.5 yr old who has entered the terrible two's and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around (clingy one moment, screaming hissy fits the next)

DH and I have our first FS appointment this week. No doubt I will be put on drugs that may make me more emotional and hormonal than I am now..... although at the moment that doesn't feel possible.

After Easter MIL is coming to stay for almost a week and my house is just getting beyond feral because it isn't a priority right now.

Oh and I'm on the committee for a charity event and being only 6 weeks out ... I am 'supposed' to be finding time to do my part in that.

AGHHHHHHHH! Why do I do this to myself.

Please, give me inspirational stories of survival. I just need to know it can be done because otherwise I'm fkd.

[foxy_feline]

Can you drop or defer one or two subjects? That would reduce your stress levels.

My survival story pretty much consists of admitting defeat at being able to pass two subjects at the same time as working full time (extended hours at the moment due to major project and higher duties), keeping house and still having time to do things on the weekend with DF (and no kids yet... IDK how you lot with kids manage it along with working! I'm in awe...). I'm now down to one subject and much happier about things.

Alternatively, ask for help. Is it possible financially to hire a cleaner? One thing off your plate. Can you cut back or drop out of the charity do? Maybe find someone else who can help share the load with you?

Other suggestions: If your toddler doesn't get up early - you should (if you aren't already). Make the most of the time your toddler is asleep, if possible. This way, you also have a little more time in the evenings to spend with your partner.

[archy's mehi...]

Wow, what a load you have. I can't really give you survival stories that would match what you have! The only positive I can give is re essays. I have done the odd total race to the finish on an essay, and done well. One I was working on for nearly 24 hrs with about 4 hours sleep in the middle. Got an A+. I had, however, done a fair amount of thinking about it, so it wasn't going in cold. The best thing I found was getting to a point where I couldn't think anymore and then going for a walk - not with anyone, or doing something that required brainpower. It gave the mind time to work on it. I have a very supportive DP, who took over looking after the kids when essays were due.

It sounds like your group may have people who use text speak all the time? I have a friend who is a prof in the US and says she has 2nd and 3rd year students using text-speak in essays, then complaining when they get penalised for it! Think you may have to announce that you are a grammar nazi and constitute yourself the editor for the group. Hopefully the group aren't useless at the work, just the spelling.

Best of luck.

[sarah_jane]

When? right now.

Survival... um. I'm not sure yet.

I'm sooooooo freaking busy. Kids are missing out, house is a mess, extensions on everything.. I just broke up with my partner as it was all too much.

Umm, that's not really a great survival story.

I'm still enrolled? I'll be qualified in 7 months? lol.

[BlondieUK]

My final year of a PT GradDipEd -

* dealing with my eldest's autism diagnosis
* selling one flat, buying and renovating another
* working FT as well as studying
* High risk pregnancy
* DH dealing with a very stressful time at work.

2008 nearly killed me. And that was with a lot of help around the house.

[SarahM72]

Try crying and beg your tutor for an extension? Has often worked for me.

But seriously, I'm studying a degree and also at TAFE, and I work part time and am a single mum to a few more than average children. I recently dropped my volunteer work, and also had to drop a unit of my degree for this semester. Sometimes things are just a nightmare and you need to juggle as best you can. School holidays are just a total write off for me. Just take it one day at a time and try to resist dropping out when it all gets too much!!

[Guest_holy_j_*]

2008- late May. DP gets a job offer to move 1000km away. Good offer so he accepts, and we pack up and move 2 kids, 2 dogs, in 3 weeks. I have to defer my exams.

June 18 arrive, start the new semester in July. Decide I am finally going to knuckle down and get this uni degree done so I take 3 subjects, with a a deferred exam for another, so 4 altogether.

No childcare anywhere in the area. No family here and don't know a soul DP in a new job so never here.

DP's parents who applied for the papers to come and visit, are accepted months ahead of schedule. So now we are in a new place for not even a month, DP is never here, and his non english speaking parents and niece arrive of which I have to entertain while he is at work. And stay for 6 weeks. Which is very difficult with a language barrier. And the first time i met the MIL and i desperately wanted her to like me, so i developed an inane cleaning habit for a while there.MIL eventually told hubby to tell me to lay off the cleaning as she didn't really care what the place looked like

Then my dad got sick as did my sister. Then about 4 weeks into the in laws visit i started feeling a bit off and my boobs were getting a bit sore...yup pregnant for the 3rd time, resulting in somewhat of a mental crisis for moi as to how i would cope.

Inbetween all that, i managed to study and pass all 4 exams, with 8 assignments due that semester, and get a HD for one subject.

[Spunkrat]

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This post has been edited by Spunkrat: 01/09/2012, 02:39 PM