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Looking after other peoples sick children, Yes or no?

Phoenix Blue View Member Profile	19/03/2012, 06:51 PM Post #1
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I am SAHM. SIL has just gone back to work this year. Nephew has come been vomiting today, and she's asked me if I am willing to look after him tomorrow. I have said no because a) I'm 31 weeks pregnant and don't want to risk catching it. b) I don't want my other children to catch it and c) I have both children at school and kinder in the morning which is 3 hours to myself. I feel guilty about saying no and wonder am I being a bit selfish (especially point c) but I also feel a bit miffed about being asked. So WDYT? What would you say, or have you been in her position and asked others? Thanks ETA: SIL says he is no longer vomiting, was just a 24 hr bug, but has ear infection. This post has been edited by Phoenix Blue: 19/03/2012, 07:06 PM

EBeditor View Member Profile	19/03/2012, 06:54 PM Post #2
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My partner and I usually have enough sick leave between us to be able to manage ill children. If for some reason it was quite important for us both to be at work, I am lucky that my mother has retired and might be able to come and mind my child. I probably wouldn't ask a heavily pregnant woman with 3 children to mind my sick child!

imamumto3 View Member Profile	19/03/2012, 06:54 PM Post #3
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no way for a vomitting bug, to easy for everyone to catch.

bertbub View Member Profile	19/03/2012, 06:55 PM Post #4
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I wouldnt - too infectious, too much chance of my family getting it....yucko gastro! Dont they have family/carer leave, most places do now.

Carmen02 View Member Profile	19/03/2012, 06:55 PM Post #5
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Good on u for saying no i would. My 3 kids catch things so easy and ive said no before for the same thing with my SIL i hope yours is more mature she went off her nut at DH n called me a b*tch..guess who never did a favour for her again lol

PopsiclePeach View Member Profile	19/03/2012, 06:56 PM Post #6
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Mild cold = yes Gastro = No FRACKING way!! I can't believe she asked you. Too contagious for you and your family

jo-v View Member Profile	19/03/2012, 06:58 PM Post #7
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No way in hell. I can deal with my own kids vomit but wouldn't fancy someone elses kid spewing over me.

ali27 View Member Profile	19/03/2012, 07:00 PM Post #8
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she may need to go to a GP to obtain a carer's certificate and then look after her DS herself.

amabanana View Member Profile	19/03/2012, 07:00 PM Post #9
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QUOTE (PopsiclePeach @ 19/03/2012, 07:56 PM) Mild cold = yes Gastro = No FRACKING way!! I can't believe she asked you. Too contagious for you and your family This. Unfortunately, many people don't understand how gastro is spread and think if the child isn't vomiting then it's all good. My SIL is one of those people.....

Kay1 View Member Profile	19/03/2012, 07:00 PM Post #10
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Hell no! I did briefly consider leaving my sniffly 6 year old with my SIL for an hour this morning as I had an appointment (and she was at home with no kids) but in the end he was ok to go to school. No way I'd ever ask anyone to look after a child with gastro. Apart from anything else gastro is miserable and the kid I'm sure would rather be in his own bed.

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