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SIDS guidelines and i didn't have to get out of bed to check on her. I did try sleeping in another room a few times in those early sleep deprived weeks and it was worse, it was like i could hear more

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OP, if I were you I'd stick with whatever plan you have, but be flexible enough to change it if necessary.

The thing is, it's hard to tell how things will be, until the baby arrives.

This is great advice. I never thought I'd co-sleep and it's the best thing I ever did. Didn't start until after 6 months.

[a4anna]

DS was moved to his own room at 10days old. I am a very light sleeper and couldn't sleep between his little noises and DH snoring.

For the first couple of months i had the baby monitor next to my bed on lights mode so i could look if i thought i'd heard something, his room was next to ours and i just left the doors open, It was easy for me to be able to get up to do night feeds so i didn't wake up DH.

We are planning on DS2 who is due in 6 odd weeks to sleep in our room during the day and the lounge room at night so he doesn't wake DS1 and we can keep up his routine.

[prettypenny]

As everyone has said, do what is right for you.

Both my DDs have slept in a cot, in their own room from day dot. The nursery and our bedroom share a wall and I hear every noise I need to hear. I find it easier to feed DD2 in a chair in her room plus her change table is right there. DD1 was a winter baby and we heated her room only. DH and I prefer not to have heating in our room.

I did sleep with DD1 in my room once when I was at my mum's. My gosh it was like sleeping next to Selma and Patty from The Simpsons with all the noise she made

[willow79]

You can rock the bassinet back and forth with your foot when you are half asleep lol.

[new~mum~reenie]

I cant think of any real disadvantages

I liked that he was right there for feeding - literally dragged him into our bed from his cot while seated in bed

I liked his noises - I soon identified what was normal and what was not. I woke up at his first hungry grunts and fed him - so he never cried of hunger = Not having to resettle baby to sleep. He pretty much would dream feed.

We still watched TV, had showers in ensuite, talked etc with baby still in room. He never had issues waking up to noise and still can sleep through anything.

once, when he was a bit older and rolled around in cot, he got gastro (we all did, but it hit him first). I woke up because his noise wasn't 'normal'. He didn't cry etc, and was still sleeping when I found him face down in his own vomit. It was a huge reassurance that I had him in the room with me. Otherwise I don't know when I would have found him...


I really missed him when he moved to his own room (too big for bassinet) and it made feeding so much harder. By the time I heard him (even with doors open and him being in the closest bedroom) he would be screaming with hunger, then I had to settle him and get him back to sleep, then I'D be awake and struggle to get back to sleep myself.

[myfairlady]

Our DS was in his cot in his room for day 1 - it just felt right to us! Even though, like you, it was uncommon amongst our friends.

We had a small house, so I didn't use a baby monitor - I could hear him when he woke up, but not every rustle / movement / whatever (and he was a noisy sleeper). Yes, I had to get up for the night feeds but I was more comfortable in the chair in his room and it was a lovely time sitting there half asleep feeding my baby.

This exactly. Both ours were in their own room from day 1. Honestly I was always too scared to feed the bub in bed for fear of going to sleep and baby falling out, being rolled on. This concerned me more than the minute SIDS risk of having them in another room. I preferred to get up and be awake/ snoozing while feeding.



This post has been edited by dudewheresmycar: 16/03/2012, 07:55 PM

[laridae]

I was all set up for my DD to sleep in the own room from the get go... and when we got home from the hospital I just couldn't do it. So we moved the cradle into our room. It made it so much easier for feeding (I'd just get get out, feed her lying down and put her back when she was finished as she'd always fall back asleep). Then because I never got up I'd go straight back to sleep.
If I was worried, I could just reach my hand out to check that she was still breathing.
When she was outgrowing the cradle, we just set the cot up in our room. Shes actually still sleeping there now, at 18m. Partly because her room is upstairs and ours is downstairs (we are going to move upstairs but we need to repaint & put down new carpet before the room will be livable), partly because it means that I can lie in bed for a bit longer in the mornings (she'll just come into bed with me when she wakes up and have a feed). But then again - she's a pretty deep sleeper, she doesn't wake up overnight at all, even if we turn the light on or off or talk.

Its been good the few times I've woken up to hear her vomiting also - she pretty much sleeps though it, even though shes got it all over herself, but I get her up, give her a shower and change the bedding.

[LittleRB]

Agree with all the PP's who have stated do what's best for you & your baby. This is hard to judge until your little one arrives!

As for me personally, I can't think of any disadvantages. As a new mum, I felt it was safer for DS being in our room. I could hear what was going on, particularly if anything went wrong. It was quicker and easier to reach over and grab him when he woke up to be bf in the middle of the night. I felt that he was more settled because he could sense that I was in the same room - this comforted him and encouraged him to sleep longer. And my favourite was his smell... I love his smell and having him in my room in those early days was just bliss...

Moved him into a cot at 12 weeks.

EDIT: The only gripe I would have with this is we paid a decent amount for a bassinette and sheets sets that only lasted us a few weeks - not really worth the money in my opinion & I would have bought a cheaper one!

This post has been edited by LittleRB: 16/03/2012, 08:06 PM

[loulou1976]

I only see the advantage - that you can hear them breathe - end of story! Any disadvantage isn't worth considering at such an early stage.