[TJ1]

Jules095- i have been thru countless yrs of fertility treatment so please dont judge me or try to say that i dont understand..

That is all........

[nene]

Another long term IVFer. I also echo the no. For me it was an 8 year, 14 cycle journey for number 1. Many days it's hard to hold it together and envy & jealously just eats you up inside. You can't control those feelings & the despair that comes with them.

When trying for number 2, I never brought in DD with me to appointments.

Good on you for being a donor and such a thoughtful & sensitive woman.

[Paddlepop]

Wow.
How is being insensitive going for you.

As long as you won't see them again you give no thought to other people. Really.

And how is being judgemental going for you?

I don't give no thought to other people if I won't see them again, but I certainly won't put their feelings above those of my daughter.

[TiredbutHappy]

But you weren't having the dildocam at the shopping centre. I tended to feel a lot more emotionally vulnerable while actually going through the process.

I'm just saying that as someone who has been through the process, it didn't bother me at all. No right or wrong just a different perspective.

This post has been edited by Gumbette: 14/03/2012, 09:17 PM

[jojonbeanie]

My IVF clinic was in a maternity hospital. They had childrens' toys in the waiting room. My fertility specialist had her consulting rooms in the same maternity hospital and her waiting area was in an open public area which was a public thoroughfare so had lots of children wandering past. The ultrasound clinic was on the opposite side of the hallway with loads of obviously pregnant women coming and going. It never occurred to be upset about others bringing their children into the area because it was never a possibility to do otherwise.

[nene]

Wow Paddlepop you sure have a sense of entitlement there... Whatever happened to empathy?

[samagard]

And how is being judgemental going for you?

I don't give no thought to other people if I won't see them again, but I certainly won't put their feelings above those of my daughter.

Your daughter is 4! Her range of feelings don't even come close to that of an infertile woman.

You are planning on trying for a 2nd child.
Some of those women can't even fall pregnant with their first.
There are plenty of other "interesting" appointments you can take her to that don't involve IVF.

Utterly amazed at your lack of empathy.

This post has been edited by somebody_new: 14/03/2012, 09:24 PM

[domestically~cha...]

Children in the waiting room always made a hard process for me even harder. If we ever did AC again I would never take mine. Ever.

[Paddlepop]

Your daughter is 4! Her range of feelings don't even come close to that of an infertile woman.

You are planning on trying for a 2nd child.
Some of those women can't even fall pregnant with their first.
There are plenty of other "interesting" appointments you can take her to that don't involve IVF.

Utterly amazed at your lack of empathy.

I don't have a lack of empathy. Especially because I am the infertile one in our marriage. I thought that I would never have a child either and felt like a failure. But I have had a child. In my life I don't have anyone who can look after her so the reality is she will be coming with me to any future IVF appointments. It's not like I'll let her run around the waiting room yelling and annoying everyone. I'll get her to sit quietly and read a book or something else unobtrusive. Is that good enough for all of you who think I lack empathy?

Anyway, all of this judgement of me is off topic.

[CrunchyNut]

My IVF clinic was in a maternity hospital. They had childrens' toys in the waiting room. My fertility specialist had her consulting rooms in the same maternity hospital and her waiting area was in an open public area which was a public thoroughfare so had lots of children wandering past. The ultrasound clinic was on the opposite side of the hallway with loads of obviously pregnant women coming and going. It never occurred to be upset about others bringing their children into the area because it was never a possibility to do otherwise.

This, its a bit hard when you're in a public waiting area where there are many different people there for many different reasons. Just because we are going through IVF for the second time or whatever does not mean we have no idea what it is like to be infertile, we have been there too but have been blessed with a beautiful baby BUT we are also sitting there squirming feeling god awful because we have our children there and wishing like anything that the person sitting next to us will be as blessed as we are! Just because we have our children there doesn't mean we are ignorant to the others feelings or lack empathy.. quite the opposite actually! Please don't assume you know how we feel! maybe one day it might be you! hopefully!

This post has been edited by CrunchyNut: 14/03/2012, 09:53 PM