[redkris]

As a rule I tried to avoid taking DS to appointments, and I think I managed it about 95% of the time, either because I had an early morning scan or bloodtest and DH would not have gone to work yet so would be at home with DS, or DH would take time off and go for a walk outside with DS while I was getting a treatment, or my parents would babysit.
That being said, I didn't think of it as a massive no-no, shortsighted I know, but when I first started going to the clinic every waiting room had a little area with toys and there was usually at least one kid around, so I never knew any different. For some reason the babies at the clinic made me much less sad than the mum at the mall pushing a baby in a pram while holding a toddler's hand and with a pregnant belly. I'd look at them and think "how come it's so easy for them?" while with the parents at the clinic I would look at them and wonder how many cycles they had to go through before having their baby, and hope it was me next.
I do recognize that that was just my experience though. One of my work colleagues was doing IVF at the same time as I was having treatment, and after I got pregnant she stopped speaking to me until after she got pregnant....I imagine children in the waiting room of the clinic would have upset her a great deal



This post has been edited by redkris: 15/03/2012, 09:18 PM

[It'sallgood]

I think you are correct and really every effort should be made to have them looked after and attend the appointment alone.

Agree.
Tamm

[jojonbeanie]

Good ol' JRA and JJB pertaining to represent infertiles once again. Good to see that some things never change on EB.

I'm not representing anyone but myself. And I certainly would never use the term 'infertiles'. I'm answering the OP's question and telling her what I think. I would not have been upset if she brought her child into the fertility clinic while I was attending. This is how I felt. That doesn't change how you or anyone else felt, but I'm not going to change my mind about how I felt just because you felt otherwise.

[Mumsyto2]

Couldn't they maybe have had a non heavily pregnant person deal with a patient undergoing a failed IVF and D&C for a fifth time?

Seriously. It isn't sack her or deal with it, surely there is a better way to handle that situation?

It's just not that simple. Someone still has to ask that person to go away and do something else, leave their normal duties etc for this to occur. This then becomes a very grey area and a bit of a slippery slope - asking someone to step back from their usual duty as they are pregnant no matter how good the underlying intentions. It's just not acceptable in this day and age to do that, you are in effect determining that one persons rights trump someone else's in a legal sense in this regard and that's not going to end well. it is indeed an unfortunate situation but short of reversing all rights that pregnant women have you just can't ask this of a pregnant woman these days irrespective of where they work.

Unfortunately it's also not a situation whereby the pregnant woman can offer out of respect for the other persons feelings as she is not psychic so essentially someone has to tell her about the situation and thus it could be seen that it has then been 'implied' that she should step back from her usual duty in this regard and then we get into the vicious circle of discrimination in the workplace again. There's just no easy solution for this.