[purpleblackqueen]

Just spoke to my MIL and she reckons I am better of Applying for emergency Acc through Dept of Housing, getting put where I get put and not having a choice of house.

I need to go back to work, but she reckons I should advertise and pay someone t have the kids while I work.

I need a job to be able to move from here (can't really afford the rent- until I get the time to start listing this on EBAY.

I am not having a garage sale selling DH"s stuff with kids at home and have no-one here who can look after them, they are going through serpartion issues, so not prepared to employed someone yet who they dont know.

WDYT?

I am doing AVon- althoug behind- MIL says "You can't keep doing Avon fullstop"

ETA I am thinking I am IT for my kkds and I need to work Yes, but I want to do something where if my kids are sick or need me I am there.

This post has been edited by purpleblackqueen: 07/03/2012, 01:03 PM

[EssentialBludger]

I think you should do what YOU think is best for your family.

[Chasing daisies]

I think housing comission is a good idea...but you can choose your area....Explain to them your circumstances and im sure they will get you something as fast as they can.
In regards to work...are both your children in school?
If yes the i would try to find something that you can do while they are at school..so it doesnt cost you anything for childcare.
I would keep doing the Avon....atleast its something hey.
GOOD LUCK

[purpleblackqueen]

I think housing comission is a good idea...but you can choose your area....Explain to them your circumstances and im sure they will get you something as fast as they can.
In regards to work...are both your children in school?
If yes the i would try to find something that you can do while they are at school..so it doesnt cost you anything for childcare.
I would keep doing the Avon....atleast its something hey.
GOOD LUCK

My ex friend asked this area- and got moved 2 hours out of. There is a 7 yr wait for this area. If I go back to work during school hours- I have no-one if they are sick, as they are both now.

[nlman]

If you have two or less kids, I would think it would be cheaper to put them in long daycare / before & afterschool care, than to employ a nanny.

[Guest_tigerdog_*]

Agreed, do what you think is best. My mother went and got details off internet sites for carers ('just in case you need a backup') even though she knows I'm flat-out against having my kids cared for in someone else's home who I don't know. I also have people advising all sorts of things to 'help' my kids with separation issues since DP died (eg. my DS, 3.5, has been having nightmares - someone suggested he might be disturbed by losing his Dad and that I should only keep one photo out of DP - I argued the exact opposite, we should all be doing all we can to keep DP alive for the kids, this would be counterproductive to that).

Try your best to handle it diplomatically but as I found in my case, a few times I had to call a temporary 'time-out' on a few close relationships as the advice I was getting really wasn't appreciated and was actually upsetting me and making it more difficult to deal with my grief (another example was someone asking a third party if I'd mentioned anything about having the tattoo of DP's name removed - the third party reported it back to me, I was so upset, as if a person can just be erased like that, I couldn't understand the logic behind it - hello, we didn't just split up, he died!).

Good luck!

This post has been edited by tigerdog: 07/03/2012, 01:25 PM

[purpleblackqueen]

If you have two or less kids, I would think it would be cheaper to put them in long daycare / before & afterschool care, than to employ a nanny.

$30 per hour per child- is what I was quoted - =$120 per day. If I was to work full time- but waht about during school hours if they are sick???? They are now and I have no-one. Based on last winter- I wouldn't have a job for long

[Mexy]

If you are in IT (depends what area as it's vast) you could try contracting. Trying contacting a few recruitment agents to ask for help in that department.

There is no reason you can't work school hours - a lot of people do it. If they get sick, you take sick or annual leave. It's okay and normal.

Regarding everything in general - stop listening to your MIL. You are a strong woman who needs to stand on her own two feet right now.

I know it's hard, but you can do this.

[~Delilah~]

The emergency housing list won't have a 7 year wait. Maybe a week depends on many things.

From your previous posts, your MIL is not your friend and is toxic to your health.

Keep the avon going for now if its not costing you anything. If it is, ditch it. When you get a job, ditch again if it costs you money.

I'd also be looking at childcare rather than a nanny unless you can employ a nanny through a childcare agency that has CCR/CCB. Otherwise, I think, you'll have to pay the full amount for a nanny and can only get the rebate once every 3 months. With CCB, you get the discounted rate immediately and you can still claim CCB.

[CheriDeMomie]

As a single mother you will find child care greatly reduced. At my centre it is something like $25 per day - or something ridiculous like that. If your children are at school you might like to enquire about after care for your children - most schools offer this. The other option is opening up to another parent and seeing if you can arranged shared care together.

You can then look for part time work. Do you rent? If you do then you should be getting rent assistance. Also - i understand there is a bereavement benefit which you may already know about and have received? I'd be looking for cheaper accomodation in an area first that you feel you can afford. Did you investigate the insurance for people killed on roads in Australia yet? I posted a link for you in a previous thread. This might help financially at some point if you are eligible.

Do what is best for you ... I wouldn't be listening to MIL ... a lot of people tried to push me around and tell me what to do and push me into living in a place I didn't want to live after my brother died under the 'guise' of helping me. It wasn't helpful. And I knew and did what was best for me and my child.

You will too - trust your own instincts x