[Happypinks]

Hi there, advice please for those with older kids...

My DD is 2.8 months and was TT nearly 6 months ago, she would have the occasional accident but generally daytime dry. Things regressed when my DD 2 arrived & just haven't got back on track. She's gone into a new class from Jan at daycare too but she's started hiding when she's pooing and constantly dribbling or lightly wetting her knickers. At daycare she'll go to toilet but 10min after will dribble/wet her knickers again. I think it's part down to laziness, she doesn't want to stop doing what she's doing to go, if we take her she'll create but will go. I'm going to start again with a reward and recognition system but has anyone else had this issue? It's driving me nuts constantly changing wet knickers and taking loads of changes of clothes everywhere! It's not like she wasn't dry before and she was so much younger, so don't think it's a bladder control issue...She is happy and content and we aren't having any problems with her behaviour and she gets just as much attention as before so not sure its an attention thing either. When I ask her what happened she says "Don't worry, we'll just get a new pair"!!

Any ideas from those who have experienced this would be appreciated...

[miss*k]

I think it's quite normal for them to regress. DD did this for a few days after 3 months of being dry. I just kept going, changed clothes and cleaned up when necessary. As annoying and frustrating as it was.

I do know of a few ladies from mothers group who went on to having a second and their regression happpened after bubs was born. May have been a coincidence, but they think it played a part in it.

I know it's frustrating but just keep going she is not going to be having accidents forever, she will get there Keep up with the reward and recognition and lots of praise.

Good luck OP

[Happypinks]

Ill keep going PP, its been 6 months now....so hey whats another 6 months LOL. Weve got the sticker chart ready so starting with that again...

[yone77]

just wanted you to know you're not alone OP.

My DS1 was toilet trained at 2 yrs 10mth and was dry for about 3 or 4 months before he regressed. I have put it down to a) stress that we were moving house, b) attention seeking - also related to moving as we were very busy with house stuff, c) turning 3! - lots of tantrums/controlling behaviour and d) laziness - he even told me one day that he didn't want to stop watching the tv that was why he wet his pants.

I was totally pulling my hair out about this and probably over-reacted as the more I reminded him or told him to go to the toilet (lots of arguments!) the worse he got, so now we are trying to use incentives such as if he stays dry up to lunch time he is allowed to play with the ipad , if he then stays dry to bed time he gets to "stay up" for an extra 10 mins after his brother goes to bed. Also, we are heavily promoting that its his choice if he wets or not, if he does wet he has to go and get his own undies and pants, change himself, put his wet pants in the washing machine etc so that its actually more of an effort to wet than not. This seems to be helping, I think.

Most of the advice I've had or read has been to ignore the behaviour, praise when they do go to the toilet and they will eventually just click back to being dry. I have really struggled with not getting mad at him but honestly have found that the more I push it, the worse he got so am trying to be encouraging rather than forceful.

Good luck...