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Leaving your money to charity

Guest_Hoggle_*	25/02/2012, 09:29 AM Post #1


My sister called me last night wanting to tell me she had changed her will recently. She was a bit nervous about telling me because she has changed it to leave everything to a charity. Our other sister can be quite selfish so I think she was worried I'd be annoyed she wasn't leaving anything to me and my children. It didn't bother me in the slightest. She has worked very hard for everything she has and can do what she wishes with it. I don't feel like I am entitled to anything just because I am her sister. It would be great if more people did it I think. She was very relieved but a bit surprised by my positive reaction. What would your reaction be if a family member told you they had done this?

Guest_tigerdog_*	25/02/2012, 09:34 AM Post #2


I recently found out my only sister has left everything in her will to a close friend (ex-boyfriend) as she will never have children of her own - I was a bit shocked she didn't leave it to my children but it didn't worry me, she can leave it to who she likes (she is changing it now though to leave a quarter each to my boys as my DP has died). I did wonder though how other family members might have viewed it (ie. our mother, who isn't the ex-boyfriend's biggest fan - she actually calls him 'the parasite' and this was even before she learnt of this ). This post has been edited by tigerdog: 25/02/2012, 09:35 AM

Chasing daisies View Member Profile	25/02/2012, 09:34 AM Post #3
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Their money their choice

countrymel View Member Profile	25/02/2012, 09:37 AM Post #4
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I would be surprised that they had told me! Do people discuss their wills that often? I thought that was the domain of the manipulative unloveable elderly relatives...? I do remember we were very surprised when my lovely old Great Aunt died and we discovered she HADN'T left her money to charity...

Rubixx View Member Profile	25/02/2012, 09:39 AM Post #5
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QUOTE (Chasing daisies @ 25/02/2012, 10:34 AM) Their money their choice Agreed.

follies View Member Profile	25/02/2012, 09:41 AM Post #6
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As long as it was a reputable charity that she had done lots of research in and had personal attachment to I would be fine with it. I wouldn't like to think she was being taken advantage of by a scam however, and this does unfortunately happen. It would have nothing to do with me receiving money as I do not believe that not descending family members have a right to claim money in the first place unless is part of wishes directed in a will, it has everything to do with her personal welfare.

Guest_Hoggle_*	25/02/2012, 09:43 AM Post #7


QUOTE (follies @ 25/02/2012, 10:41 AM) As long as it was a reputable charity that she had done lots of research in and had personal attachment to I would be fine with it. I wouldn't like to think she was being taken advantage of by a scam however, and this does unfortunately happen. It would have nothing to do with me receiving money as I do not believe that not descending family members have a right to claim money in the first place unless is part of wishes directed in a will, it has everything to do with her personal welfare. Yes I agree with that. And yes it is something that she has very personal reasons for choosing and means a lot to her.

LucyE View Member Profile	25/02/2012, 09:58 AM Post #8
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QUOTE As long as it was a reputable charity that she had done lots of research in and had personal attachment to I would be fine with it. I wouldn't like to think she was being taken advantage of by a scam however, and this does unfortunately happen. This. But in my personal circumstance, where I have always been informed I would be left x, if it changed without informing me prior to death, I would be seriously questioning how 'authentic' the new will was. I don't need the inheritance, but if I felt it went against everything I had believed to be true of the person, then I would possibly challenge it. QUOTE I would be surprised that they had told me! Do people discuss their wills that often? I thought that was the domain of the manipulative unloveable elderly relatives...? Yes, we discuss it with our immediate relatives. It is actually very important to discuss it and for everyone to be made aware so any questions can be asked, and any possible misinterpretations can be smoothed over. It's not something we discuss often, but when things change/are updated, the main beneficiaries are made aware. It's not held over our heads either. My personal inheritance, I'd be happy for it to skip me but it has been made clear to me that the benefactor wishes me to have it as a fall back.

Mozzie1 View Member Profile	25/02/2012, 10:09 AM Post #9
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QUOTE (countrymel @ 25/02/2012, 10:37 AM) I would be surprised that they had told me! Do people discuss their wills that often? I thought that was the domain of the manipulative unloveable elderly relatives...? I do remember we were very surprised when my lovely old Great Aunt died and we discovered she HADN'T left her money to charity... Yes, it's really important to discuss your will with your loved ones, so there are no surprises if you pass. My Dad has discussed his will with myself and my siblings, so we all know exactly what to expect and can ask any questions if we need to. I have explained my will to DH, plus my parents in case he and I go together.

Ker View Member Profile	25/02/2012, 10:11 AM Post #10
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If I didn't have kids, my will would leave everything to an animal charity. I had actually planned that, but now I have kids, that has naturally changed.

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