[RobotFerretOfDoo...]

Go to the zoo. Have a quiet chat with the resident storks, and see if they can help.


(In all seriousness OP, just stop the birth control and let it happen when it happens. Don't think about getting pregnant, just think about enjoying time with your partner.)

[soontobegran]

I am confused!

[redkris]

Wait a little bit.
I've read fairly recently that a woman should have 2 years minimum between births to allow their bodies to truly recover and build up resources for their next pregnancy....I know many people have a smaller gap than this and manage ok, but I'm sure there are many others whose bodies have really paid the price for conceving again too quickly. You'll probably find also that if you wait a few extra months you won't be as worried by the idea of labour...maybe your anxiety is your body's way of telling you that you are just not ready?

[podg]

How to get pregnant when really really trying not to?

Rely on breastfeeding, condoms and willpower.

[PippityRoo]

Lol. Love your theory OP!

Maybe just try not to think about it when the time comes, and just have lots of sex

Hope you get the gap you want, I've always wanted a nice small gap

Good luck!

[Bunsen]

I'm with PPs give it time, in a couple of months you'll start to forget the pain of labour, baby goes through a cute phase and sleeps through the night a couple of times and before you know it you're sucked in for another go... then you find out you're pregnant and the tantrums start and you question what the hell you're doing but its all too late! Nature is a wonderful thing

[Sayerley]

Plant some cabbages and then have your DH sneeze in a beer

[trishalishous]

plan a big event (for me it was my 30th) involving lots of drinking and partying.
I guarantee youll fall pregnant beforehand and wont be able to drink

[LambChop]

I had a horrific first birth, premmie etc etc. I just went with denial (ie, didn't think about it) and quickly got on with the shagging. By the time I got cold feet, I was already pregnant with my daughter lol.

Sometimes in life you just have to let go and have faith

[new~mum~reenie]

I would give yourself time to get over the birth first. When pregnant with no 2 I said I was going to try for no 3 really soon afterwards he's now 3 and only in the last few months have I considered trying soon due to being too scared to birth again. The actual birth wasn't too bad, but they had to put me under to remove the placenta, they said it would be really quick, but I came round hours later, due to complications, to a distraught baby and husband. It's was the thought of getting put to sleep and not waking up that freaked me out most. Now I feel ready, but if you think you can only do it by tricking yourself, I don't think you are ready.

I agree with this. Birth can be very emotional. It took 4+ years to move on from a very traumatic experience. I honestly thought DH would not have any more children, and if she did, I imagined she'd opt for elect CS to regain some of the control that she lost the first time. I have known her since we were 14 and knew she suffered depression. She went to BIRTH TALK in QLD. Did courses, much counseling and many appointments with the MWs there over years to come to some sort of closure with her experience and allow the thought of a second child to enter her head.
And to my amazement she planned a HBAC. It resulted in transfer and repeat CS, but just the sound in her voice was ecstatic about the outcome in comparison to last time. Because it was the level of care she recieved from the MWs and that SHE made the choices this time (last time she was dictated to).

So, in my longwinded way I am suggesting you talk to someone about your last experience and explore ways to avoid a repeat in the negative parts of your child's birth.