[Nicola67]

Hello, I did put this in another area but it seems inactive at the moment so I'm posting again......

This is difficult for me and my first post for quite some time. I used to be around on these boards in 2006 - 2008 when I needed help the most.
I have 2 beautiful healthy children. I also have 2 buried children.
Eliza is 8 and perfectly healthy (Born 2003)
Sophia was born at 38 weeks in 2006 (full gestation) but was technially stillborn. They revived her and she was on a ventilator for 4 days whilst they ran tests. It was hopeless and she died in our arms on the 4th day.
Archer was born in 2008 via IUI, a perfectly healthy boy.
Then I miscarried Harley at 16 weeks in 2009.

I need to chat for a number of reasons....... I am now 44 and pregnant again (8 weeks). I am considered 'high risk' and am very scared. I truly thought I could have no more children and when I missed my period I thought was starting Menopause!!

Posting on this forum a few years ago helped me so much emotionally I'm hoping I can again use 'strangers' ears to lean on.

Funny thing is I wasn't sure which topic to post under..... older mums, pregnancy after miscarriage, due in October or Pregnancy after Neonatal loss!! LOL

We are not telling ANYONE about the pregnancy until we know that things are ok. So getting this off my chest for now will relieve some of the pressure. In 4 weeks I will be having a CVS so that milestone will be a big day for us.

Thanks for reading and I will be in touch.
Nicola

[beastie]

Congratulations on your pregnancy. All the best for your CVS.

[michellew68]

Hello and congratulations!

I never suffered the loss you have had so I wont even say I can imagine what that is like. I just wish a wonderful sticky pregnancy for you.

You will find some great support from the girls on EB.

[suzy-c]

Hang in there, Nicola! They do say our biggest pregnancy obstacle as we get older is inability to conceive at all, and you have passed that one! Isn't that wonderful! You can still get pregnant! Awesome!

The CVS should tell you everything else you need to know, babywise. If you keep informed about your general health and hormone levels, you'll have less "unknown" to be afraid of. Knowledge is power, as they say.

I wish you all the best, and congratulations to you and your family!

[brontie]

Congrats on this pregnancy... I am sorry to hear about your losses.. SUCKS..

I just wanted to let you know that your local SIDS n KIDS might have a special support group for your category called Pregnancy after loss, my local Canberra one has one and we range from single twin death, too early births (me 18w), still birth and infant death. Its a free service and I wouldnt have been able to get through this pregnancy without their support..

Good luck with your CVS, make sure you put your feet up and take care of yourself.