[Anyanka]

RedsGirl. Pleased to hear that your family is now complete and you can move on as one happy family without the dreaded IVF journey.

I know of a few rambuncious and go go go girls. Not all sit there like a pretty petal. lol. so I hear you. lol.

I know I just want 2 kids myself but hope I don't have any embies left over, after we are lucky enough to get child no.2 Cause I don't want another pregnancy, I don't want to let them perish, and Im not sure if I could donate to science.

I want to donate to another couple but we can't as you well know when using donor sperm. Arghhh.

So hopefully my FET in April works and I don't have to do IVF again. That way there will be no embies left.

Anyanka

[RedsGirl]

Not what I wanted - BBL.

This post has been edited by RedsGirl: 18/01/2012, 04:21 PM

[kazzil]

I want to donate to another couple but we can't as you well know when using donor sperm. Arghhh.

Have you checked with the clinic? We have donated our remaining embryos (my eggs, anonymous donor sperm).

It's been a while since I checked in here. It's good to hear how much things are progressing with all your families. My duo just started school - time flies too fast!!

Hazelnut, we used a clinic in Brisbane and from memory, it only costed about $100 per cycle. Our donor is local though, so no import fees I guess.

[RedsGirl]

Oh Kazzil, does it ever. Jemima turned 4 a couple of weeks ago, and will be at big school next year - i still cna't get my head around it. Looking at Tabby is like looking at her when she was a baby, but Jemima is so big for her age its hard to remember her ever being that small.

Tabby is growing and getting more gorgeous every day - nearly 10mo old now - now that was really flown by! No teeth or crawling though, she going at a much slower pace than her big sister.

Is anyone else checking in here?? I hope everyone is doign well. I know Tiff (ivelsfancy) is expecting number 2, and i am sure she must be due any day!

[Eternally]

Glad to see a few more posts here. My gorgeous girl is 7 months old, and people are now usually commenting on how she looks like me, whereas earlier on they'd say she looks like my husband. I guess better than saying she doesn't! I'd wish people would find something better to say though. Some of the ones who go on about how she looks like me, or 'she gets that from you' about any random thing, know she is donor conceived too.

[Freckles]

RG -OMG, how can Jemima be 4??!! Time flies hey!

[embracingIVF]

Hi

I wondered if anyone might be able to help.
I have been doing IVF for #1 (had success after 3 fresh cycles) and now trying for #2.
The whole IVF process is not doing my body any favours and after 2 cycles we have not had any success. The FS says my dh's partners sperm is severely fragmented (frozen sperm as had cancer 10 yrs ago). He says we are very lucky to havea child from this sperm.
My body is really not coping with the IVF drugs so we have been thinking of other backup options.
And we have come to donor sperm as an idea - using a turkey baster at home (call me crazy). Or just unmedicated IUI's.
We might have some options here and still trying to work out if this is right (although there is a part of me that feels its probably the way forward - as I also fear the consequences of using such fragmented sperm taken from when he had cancer - although our DD is perfectly healthy).
Sorry I am probably sounding like a frantic lady.
ANyway..anyone have any advice about looking for donor sperm? How did other go about it?
ANyone had one biological child and one donor?

Thanks in advance

[Cuddlesnkisses]

Hi

Embracing IVF, I'm going down this route now. I have a daughter from a previous relationship and now I'm looking for a donor. I've decided instead of waiting to see if mr right comes along that I'd prefer to go about things myself. I'm 37. There's a site called DIY baby, the membership is $50 for the first month and you can find a donor through there. It's not much fun but there are people willing to help, takes lots of sorting, lots of coffees ect I haven't found one yet but I am talking to a few. I did have one lined up but he was busy the weekend I needed him.

I'm also planning to self inseminate.

I'm happy to answer anything else you might want to know

[embracingIVF]

Thankyou cuddlesandkisses
have checked out the website.. we are getting our heads around it all
might try another ivf with the heavily fragmented sperm and then think about moving onto this next....
please keep me upto date with how you go

[RedsGirl]

hi embracing IVF - we had to advertise for a donor, as we had no suitable family and didn't feel it was right for us to ask friends, although that is certianly an option for others.

Just a word on the DIY insemination. Just be aware that when you go through a clinic you have counselling (you and your donor + partners), you have screening of the donation (there is also a quarantine period) and you can have medicated or unmedicated IUI or of course IVF as options. You are protected to a degree medically, you get support and the actual procedure can be controlled more if you choose.

Going the donor route is very emotional, can be fraught and there are a lot of issues and consequences to consider.

Sometimes (and i stress, sometimes) you can come across some, er, less than desirable responses when you advertise for a donor. And if you were doing the DIY route, you may well need to have them in your home at the right moment doign what needs to be done. Personally, I wouldn't want that. That said, there are many success stories and of course it costs less money.

Have you spoken to your current specialist about donor sperm? Some clinics do have a bank or can access it from overseas (as can you, but you'd need to pay for it to be shipped here, but it can be done!). It just dpends if you want anonymous sperm or a known donor. We wanted a known donor, so advertised and went via our clinic (Fertility First fyi) and our whole experience was very positive with (obviously) 2 wonderful outcomes.

You can advertise on sites like this, Sydney's child - anywere where you see egg donor ads you could also advertise. I know there is also the Australian Sperm Donor Register (i think that's it) - there are fees assocaited with that.

Good luck!