[akkiandmalli]

Hi emily88,
i just wanted to share my experience with you
I gave birth to DD at 24. i was over the parties/drinking socializing by then but not really established. DH and I had just gotten married no house but big dreams.
2 years later i had DS. 6 months before to his birth i began study to become a teacher.
i completed it when he was 18mths old.
i am now 31 and have being trying for a 3rd since late 2010. last year we got pregnant and sadly our DS2 died at 18weeks. So for me I have no regrets infact am totally grateful to have 2 beautiful kids. I would like more and will continue trying however if nothing happens i am totally happy with what i have
all the best with your decision.

[prettypumpkin]

No regrets I love my kids however having the first at 20 I never got to save up money or spend much on myself, never got to travel much or have the big white wedding first, sometimes I wonder what could have been if I had waited till I was 25 like I planned but then I think If I had aborted ds and waited I would have missed out on such a fantastic little guy so full of life it reassures me that I made the right decision.

[*~Luvmy3~*]

In no way do i regret having my kids, i met DP when i was 18, he was 21 and we had DS1 when we were 22 and 25. I was never a partier/drinker, wasnt into travelling and wasnt interested in studying. Both mine and DP's parents were also young parents so when i turned 18 my mum turned 40 and thats the way it will be for me when DS1 turns 18. #3 is planned (will be the only planned baby) for 2014 and i am freaking that i will be too old at 28.

The only thing is i wish we were more stable financially, living week to week with no savings sure doesnt feel good.

[quattromum]

I had my last child (#4) at 29. I'm now 34 and NO WAY will you guys regret it. You will have grown children when your friends are starting to have theirs. We are at that stage now. We go on holidays, to dinner, while our friends are where were at once upon a time.
I couldn't imagine having the energy to keep up with 4 kids in my 40's, and as someone whose parents were older, I like being young enough to be able to have something in common with my kids.

[Tea~for~two]

I wish I had had my heart broken a few times so I would have been a bit wiser when choosing the man who would be the father of my child.

Turns out you need more than love to make a relationship work

[ashleylovesben]

My Mum had us young-first baby at 23, 12 months after marrying Dad & finishing uni.
She always said to us she wishes she had more time before children. She is the best Mum ever but says if she could have the same children ten years later she would have.
And yes you can travel when the kids leave home (& believe me my parents do!) but what if you have a special needs child? Or develop a health condition that means travel is not easy/possible?
As a nurse I see people in very bad health with heart conditions, kidney problems etc in their early 40s.
Don't assume you will be able to travel later-do it all now & enjoy every minute of it.
You are young-2 years won't make a difference.
But that is just my (& my mother's) opinion.
I hate it when posters put things like 'You won't regret it!'
How do they know? You may regret it, or it may be the best thing you ever did.
Good luck

[~buzz~]

I am 22 and have just had my first. He was very much wanted and I don't regret having him at my age I always wanted to be a young mum its the one thing I knew I wanted to do it is hard but so worth it

[Bron1206]

Buzz your little boy is so gorgeous!! Love the name too.

I am a young mum (23 y.o) and also finishing off my degree. My DH and I have been together for coming up to 6yrs, have travelled, own our home and are financially stable. We both felt the time was right to start a family. Having DS has been the most amazing experience thus far and I feel so lucky and blessed to have him. Motherhood is extremely hard at times but is so rewarding. It definitely takes time to get used to and there are times of anxiety and uncertainty however you are learning to take care of this life and ensure they are protected/nurtured/loved and cared for.

As I type this I hear my DS in his bassinet talking to himself trying to go to sleep- moments like this are so special and treasured and reaffirm why we had him.

This post has been edited by Bron1206: 28/02/2013, 08:36 PM

[shesaidburn]

I don't regret it at all, I think my sons father did - and his 10 years older than me.. I'm 23 and had my son when I was 21.

I think my friends were more in shock and they sort of disappeared. I was out nearly every weekend partying then when I fell pregnant I never did that anymore.

Although, saying that now, most of my friends have lives of there own being career, family, relationships etc.

It's weird. Sometimes I feel like I'm living in the past but I'm not. It's hard to explain lol.

[Pretty Boy Floyd]

Yes, I do regret having my children young. Of course, I wouldn't wish them away, but I have so many 'what ifs'. I say to the younger girls who work with me, that the time you have between turning 18 and having a child is IT. That's that the only time in your entire life that you can do what YOU want, whenever you want to. I was 22 when I got pregnant. I had four years. Four short years lol.