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*update post 78* Supporting BIL and SIL, *sensitive -she died yesterday*
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01/07/2011, 03:29 PM
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Hi Maple Leaf
There are over 100 types of brain tumour, not all malignant, and some have better prognosis than otheres. I don't know much about pediatric tumors (I am dealing with my own anaplastic astrocytoma at 37yo), but couldn't not respond to your post.
Even given my experience, I still can't think what you should say. For me - I was really annoyed with people that didn't seem to grasp the severity of the situation. I was also rather annoyed by people that had read 2 pages on wikipedia who were trying to tell me that I would 'beat the odds for survival'. I needed first to mourn and be scared and then once I'd achieved a zero base, I was happy to work upwards from there and start building hope. - but to have people 'hoping for the best' at the outset seemed to play down their sympathy (or understanding) for the situation. I guess I'm just saying - give your BIL the option of being scared about everything. You have to be strong for so many people - it's nice to be able to break down in front of someone.
I have gone through surgery, 6 weeks of radiation and I'm now halfway through 12 months of chemo. It was pretty hard for me - and I'm a very strong woman. I am really humbled to think that little old ladies and children have the strength to tolerate the same treatment.
Wishing the best of luck to your family.
Renee
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01/07/2011, 04:09 PM
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Renee, thanks so much for responding. I'm sorry to hear of your own battle. This is becoming all too common. The ATRT (atypical teratoid rhabdoid tumour) which my niece has-has a very poor prognosis unfortunately but we are all praying for a miracle-she has just turned 3 and that can raise the survival rate a bit as compared to those kids under 3. Her dr's give her a 50/50 chance at the moment. She had her surgery and is in ICU now, paralyzed on the right side but they are hoping this is temporary, they feel they got most of the tumour removed, the rest will be blasted with the radiation and followed up with chemo. I am staying with touch with BIL and SIL as much as possible, phone calls and emails. I think a lot of people feel like hiding when news like this hits, so I am just trying to be around (as much as possible from such a great distance). Best of luck to you Renee and I hope the last 6 months of chemo treatments fly by for you.
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03/07/2011, 12:19 AM
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Hey Maple Leaf - not that my experience will in any way mirror your neice's - but I had lag problems in my right side after surgery. It took me about a week to be able to pick up a 5c piece. I think I still have reduced strength - but not so much you'd notice. I do however still notice the side effect of surgery/radiation which gives me bad memory and ... did I say bad memory? LOL.
It isn't as bad as it was 4 months ago though, so there's hope that after the worst symptoms of surgery/radiaton are over, there's hope for increased recovery.
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03/07/2011, 12:34 AM
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I too have no experience here, but am sure that letting your family know they are in your thoughts and are loved and cherished will mean a lot to them. Sending your neice some positive vibes in the hope that it helps this dear little 3 year old girl (the same age as my DS).
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03/07/2011, 02:49 PM
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Kez, thanks for those suggestions. FIL and SIL are over there at the moment helping with the other 2 kids, but are only there for 3 weeks. Good idea about a meal service/cleaning. Will definitely be looking into that! Congrats to your daughter finishing her treatment in Nov.  Am pleased to report that my niece survived the operation. Her right side is still paralyzed but she is showing glimmers of movement and even started to speak. We are hoping for the best. They won't know for a few weeks the result of the genetic testing and if the identical twin is at risk. One day at a time!
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06/07/2011, 06:02 PM
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OP - How is your neice going today?
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