[Freckles]

Welcome to the

TTC after Stillbirth/Neonatal Loss Group

Some families have suffered the tragic loss of a baby, through stillbirth or neonatal loss. This group is for those ladies, to support them on their journey towards a new baby.



PLEASE NOTE: Please consider what your signature contains before posting it. Be mindful that some signatures can be very upsetting for the members who post here regularly. You can tick the box under the reply area to turn off your signature.



Old thread is here.

[aussiebella]

GOLD


Erica- The universe really knows how to kick you when your down SCREW YOU WORLD!!!

Hope today is a bit better


Rose- I hope the beach is perfect for you today xx

[Madeline's Mum]

SILVER!

AB - yep, just seems to happen to me continually!!!! Today is a better day - I will not let myself fall into the fog again.

Rose - may today be gentle for you. I have been thinking about you and Grace all day xxxx

[rubylilysmum]

Rose - Thinking of youtoday and your precious angel Grace, I hope you and your partner have a wonderful day remembering your special girl.

Erica - Big hugs to you, sorry you Dad won't be here for Madeline's 1 st birthday, unfortunately I think only angel parents realsie how special and important these days are to us, unfortunately if you aren't an angel parent you don't realise how important birthdays, Christmas, Mother's Day ect are (even my SIL who is an angel parnets seem to forget hard hard the 1st are or she doesn't want to help me through them).

AB - Sorry AF turned up and your sysle is haywire, join the club mine haven't gone back to normal since Lily was born. How are you feeling about TTC at the moment.

HI to everyone else

Mandy

[aussiebella]

Hey Mandy
I dunno really. I kept feeling the whole time that November was my month. So i'm going to give it a red hot go the rest of the month I think. And then.....well...after that I don't know

[dee&D]

again...

aussiebella & Rose, So lovely to meet you both at the walk. It was both beautiful & sad to see so many people there.

Rose, My thoughts were with you often yesterday on Grace's EDD, last night when I read your FB page both DH & I cried. Thank you.

AFM - well AF is here again so we are all set to have a brilliant month where I predict a lot more BFP's all round. Working hard to get my head in a better place. DH has been awesome lately, gentle & just being there...
Still with the natropath (today), does anyone see one??
Family discussions have been had with both the inlaws & the out's, x-mas dinner this year is at my house. Only immediate family, about 20, and then five of them staying overnight. This means that my nieces will be sleeping in the babies room. People have slept in there before we were pregnant, but this will be the first time since it stopped being a spare room and became bubby's room. (We have tried not to call it Sean's room as he never slept there & we have full intentions of using for our next baby, therefore - bubby's room) I am finding it harder than I expected, even though the bunks had been set up in there 3months ago for that purpose. Suggestions??
Ok, that's it for now....
D

[House.of.blue]

Im sorry if this is going a bit "off topic" but I was wondering how you deal with people who tell you that you should wait a minimum of 12 months before trying for another baby? I got my check up from my doctor and got the "all clear" to start TTC but when I told people they looked at me like I was pure eveil, apparently your not suppose to try and find happiness and try for more babies if you have a child that passes. One person even told me that it was a sign from god NOT to become a mother. I try and explain to people that after carrying Bree in me for 40+2 weeks and walking out empty handed I am NOT trying to replace her but give her a sibling like my DF and I had decided while pregnant (We want 3-4 babies) I just break down and cry... Sometimes I want to scream and yell at them because they dont understand... Sorry if I am rambling im just so frustrated and sick of people thinking they know whats best for me!

Dee&D - I have no suggestions on the room as I havn't had to deal with this - YET, But I think do what makes you feel comfortable. If you dont want guests in your bubbas room then explain this (although ppl may not understand) I find it hard for even myself to go into my bubbas room and couldnt imagine people staying there. Or if there is baby stuff in their still maybe make sure the kids know what they can and cant touch as I am sure it would hurt if they were to break or wreck something special in there. Sorry I dont have too much advice I hope you find a way that suits everyone.

[kjheather]

Angelmum, I couldn't ready your post and not respond. I cannot believe the insensitivity of some people. It upset me so much that you have had to hear responses like that. They should totally be ashamed of themselves, like they know what you have gone through.

Sometimes the only thing that got me through was to know that soon we would have a baby and our house would be less empty. We started trying as soon as we lost Elise and we never really told many people that we were. In fact, at 13 weeks pregnant I am still not telling many people and I didn't know why. Maybe it's because I expect some negativity like you have been getting. But I tell you now, I am hormone queen and ANYONE that wants to take a swipe will get the full force of my opinion.

Massive massive hug and if you feel like screaming at them I bloody well would.

Good luck to all of you lovely ladies - I am still

KJ

[Diezel13]

Hi Ladies,

I hope everyone is travelling ok.

Dee&D - Really glad to hear DH has been awesome and suportive. How did the natrupath go? I think it is very brave of you to have offered for your nieces to stay the night in Bubby's room. I think you should have a back-up plan in case you decide to change your mind at the last minute. You could get them to "camp" in the lounge-room if you are not comfortable with them sleeping in Bubby's room. I am sure your family will completely understand whatever you choose to do. If you make it fun for them I don't think they will mind where they sleep. They are kiddies after all and normally much more flexible than adults!

Angelmum - For some people there are medical reasons why they have to wait 12 months to TTC again. I think people assume this must apply to everyone which is not the case. I agree with KJH that people are very insentivie and cruel at times. We should put together a list of stupid comments people make and have a come-back for each of them. I think the worst one for me was whe someone suggested it might be a "blessing" that Grace died. Seriously WTF??? In relation to the person who said it was a sign from god that you wern't supposed to be a mother - how did you respond? You are a mother - do not let anyone tell you otherwise.

AB - There is still another 17 days in November so lots of time to catch the egg. I know your cycles have been out of whack - are you using something like Fertility Friend to chart your cycles?

Hello and big hugs to everyone else.

AFM - Thanks everyone for your lovely messages of support on Grace's Due date. We had a lovely day down in Sorrento on the beach.
AF was due to arrive this coming Tuesday. On Thursday I had a visit from her little side-kick Aunt Spot. I was quite annoyed and started stressing about short luteal phases as i was only 10DPO. AS then faded but I had been feeling a bit off the last few days. This morning I decided to POAS and got a !!!! It started off faint but then got darker over the next few minutes. I tried again a bit later with a digital test and it came up saying "Pregnant".
Whilst i am very happy I am also scared something bad will happen. I can't help but worry about worst case scenario's. DH has been telling me that I must remain positive which is easier said than done. I think I will do another test again in a few days time to make sure I really am still pregnant. Those who are friends with me on FB please do not say anything as I don't want to tell anyone else until we get past a few hurdles.

Love to All,
Rose

This post has been edited by Diezel13: 21/11/2010, 04:34 PM

[kjheather]

Rose, I have my fingers crossed for you! Tentative YAY!