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Mothers with children to different men

Rapunkkzel View Member Profile	31/10/2010, 07:49 PM Post #1
Posts: 835 Joined: 25-September 10
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I know someone who has children with different fathers. She is a good mum, no different to any other mums I know, she works, she's not on benefits, she's not tarty, in a relationship or looking for one She doesnt tell anyone xcept close friends and family that the children have different dads, if asked directly she'll lie and say no they all have the same father. i think she shouldnt have to, but she thinks because of stigma to her and her kids she does have to. Sooooooo i thought Id ask what people thought. Are mothers with different fathers for their kids usually judged harshly, even if theyre good mothers? do you think that say, two different fathers is understandable, but three or more indicates some character flaw of the woman? (obviously I don't think this,, myself)

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SlowEmotionRepla... SlowEmotionReplay View Member Profile	31/10/2010, 07:57 PM Post #2
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What about fathers with children to different women? If you really don't care - then why do you care enough to ask?

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Rapunkkzel Mothers with children to different men 31/10/2010, 07:49 PM

Memphis Each to their own I guess. Who am I to judge a per... 31/10/2010, 07:53 PM

Amanda_R Some people THINK it reflects poorly on the mother... 31/10/2010, 07:54 PM

Jellyblush QUOTE (Rapunkkzel @ 31/10/2010, 08:49 PM)... 31/10/2010, 07:54 PM

LisaMaree82 My DS has a different bio dad. It is a non issue ... 31/10/2010, 07:55 PM

Sybilla What about fathers with children to different wome... 31/10/2010, 07:57 PM

*soy-latte* QUOTE If you really don't care - then why do y... 31/10/2010, 07:59 PM

jfl Despite your carefully crafted question, what you ... 31/10/2010, 08:01 PM

Brolynbub Huh, well if they are judged, one day I guess I wi... 31/10/2010, 08:03 PM

SomeRandomStranger I can't even imagine where a question like tha... 31/10/2010, 08:03 PM

eleishas A sh*t parent is a sh*t parent, no matter what the... 31/10/2010, 08:04 PM

Chantelle-n-Owen well i know one, and she had her kids taken by DHS... 31/10/2010, 08:04 PM

Chantelle-n-Owen QUOTE (SomeRandomStranger @ 31/10/2010, 09... 31/10/2010, 08:07 PM

redgirlshell I think there would be judgement if, for example, ... 31/10/2010, 08:10 PM

domestically~challenged My next door neighbour on the left was gossiping t... 31/10/2010, 08:12 PM

Rapunkkzel QUOTE (Sybilla @ 31/10/2010, 08:57 PM) Wh... 31/10/2010, 08:12 PM

MightyMummy QUOTE (Rapunkkzel @ 31/10/2010, 08:49 PM)... 31/10/2010, 08:13 PM

ENTJ People have children to more than one father for a... 31/10/2010, 08:13 PM

~*Rach*~ I have someone close to me who has 3 kids to 3 dif... 31/10/2010, 08:14 PM

Framazon QUOTE (LisaMaree82 @ 31/10/2010, 08:55 PM... 31/10/2010, 08:17 PM

ChaCHING! FWIW, my SIL has 3 children to 3 different fathers... 31/10/2010, 08:21 PM

idle QUOTE ETA - My kids superglued several letters on ... 31/10/2010, 08:25 PM

~sarita~ Damn my DH is a s*ut then. 31/10/2010, 08:27 PM

PurpleWitch LOL. I was asked this question today. Not what I t... 31/10/2010, 08:28 PM

Jupiter Evening all, I've removed an unnecessary comme... 31/10/2010, 08:28 PM

Ophelia13 I know someone who has 7 kids to 5 different fathe... 31/10/2010, 08:28 PM

kadoodle I've been asked a few times if my kids all hav... 31/10/2010, 08:30 PM

hayleymumof3 I find it funny(not haha funny) that the focus is ... 31/10/2010, 08:33 PM

~FlutterbyeKisses~ I think there is a very big difference between som... 31/10/2010, 08:34 PM

OneProudMum I know of a lady who has 6 children to 6 different... 31/10/2010, 08:38 PM

Rapunkkzel QUOTE (ChaCHING! @ 31/10/2010, 09:21 ... 31/10/2010, 08:38 PM

Theophobic I think you'd have to be really, really old to... 31/10/2010, 08:38 PM

Rapunkkzel QUOTE (OneProudMum @ 31/10/2010, 09:38 PM... 31/10/2010, 08:40 PM

LisaMaree82 QUOTE (Framazon @ 31/10/2010, 08:17 PM) I... 31/10/2010, 08:43 PM

bellygood It's kind of a make your bed and lie in it thi... 31/10/2010, 08:49 PM

MsD Oh it depends on how old she is. 31/10/2010, 08:50 PM

Bort 5QUOTE (jfl @ 31/10/2010, 09:01 PM) Despi... 31/10/2010, 08:57 PM

Fifi LaRue Well I have 2 children to 2 different fathers. My... 31/10/2010, 08:58 PM

~NICOLE~ I have 4 kids, 3 different fathers and could give ... 31/10/2010, 09:00 PM

Pear Juice I only think it's a problem if the mother trea... 31/10/2010, 09:01 PM

ENTJ I was actually really shocked this afternoon when ... 31/10/2010, 09:02 PM

Loulabelle Doll QUOTE I don't think there's anything to be... 31/10/2010, 09:03 PM

coopersmamma I had a friend who has 3 different kids to 3 diffe... 31/10/2010, 09:06 PM

sarkazm76 I have a male friend who has a daughter to one wom... 31/10/2010, 09:07 PM

noone special . 31/10/2010, 09:09 PM

Kimchi A lot of people have successful remarriages and pa... 31/10/2010, 09:11 PM

Framazon QUOTE I was actually really shocked this afternoon... 31/10/2010, 09:15 PM

MahnaMahna I do not judge people for having children to diffe... 31/10/2010, 09:18 PM

Nieuw mij Meh I dont care... My best friend has four childr... 31/10/2010, 09:22 PM

ENTJ I knew his Dad was the president. I just had no i... 31/10/2010, 09:22 PM

MahnaMahna Have you not watched West Wing ENTJ? Awesome show... 31/10/2010, 09:23 PM

coopersmamma MahnaMahna HERE HERE!!! I whole heart... 31/10/2010, 09:24 PM

Tofu Puff Sinead O'Conner kicks mega-ass, both musically... 31/10/2010, 09:26 PM

mummyofharry I would never think to ask anyone TBH. Once they t... 31/10/2010, 09:28 PM

Mumz to 3 QUOTE (MahnaMahna @ 31/10/2010, 10:18 PM)... 31/10/2010, 09:29 PM

FluffyChickenhead Some people are skanklicous, some people are not. ... 31/10/2010, 09:29 PM

StudyMum I have 2 children to 2 different fathers (DS to ex... 31/10/2010, 09:35 PM

Bellefin I have 2 step children that are 8 & 9, and oft... 31/10/2010, 09:42 PM

cookieluck My SIL's ex had a kid before he met her, then ... 31/10/2010, 09:43 PM

Ophelia13 BTW I feel that women are ultimately disadvantages... 31/10/2010, 09:45 PM

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