[My2BeautifulGirl...]

I was watching a show a while ago (Oprah), on it they had this man who is apparantely an expert on relationships, he has a book and gives advice to single women looking for love and meeting men that treat them right, and looking for signs etc that you are with a loser etc.

In the interview, he said "if you meet a man who hates his mother, run, as he will be imcapable of truly loving his wife". At the time I was abit shocked as a couple of my friends are married to men who hate their mothers, and they seemed very doting husbands.

What do you think, do you think there is any truth to what he said?

I cannot judge, as my DH is very close to his mum.

Edited to add, i do not think he meant men you dislike their mothers (i think most men would at least sometimes), i think he meant the men who absolutely hate their mothers.

This post has been edited by My2BeautifulGirls: 21/04/2010, 03:42 PM

[kittysugarside1]

My X has very little respect for his mother (thats saying in kindly, he says "he cant ****ing stand her") and he has no respect for women in general.

I dont think that all men who dislike their mothers would be the same, its to much of a generalisation. Everyone is different and has different reasons for accepting or not accepting people in their lives.

[smarty~pants]

I 'kind' of agree with this - I've always believed that closeness to family is a fundamental pillar of compatibility ie if you’re close to your family but your partner is not (or vice versa) then it will definitely drive a wedge between the couple. Along the same lines as moral values and religious beliefs – they need to be in sync.

My DH doesn’t speak to his family all that often but they are close (ie they get along very well – they’re just slack at keeping in touch!). I’m very close to my family and would expect that we both fit in with each others families without the arms length that can sometimes be there with in-laws.

[rosie76]

really depends on the mother I think

[Guest_chntlrose_*]

Would also depend on why they hate their mother?

[SCARFACE CLAW]

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This post has been edited by SCARFACE CLAW: 11/09/2011, 01:07 AM

[caramel creme ca...]

I hate my father and love my DH, but they are completely different people. It's certainly possible to hate a parent but love your partner.

[Sweet like a lem...]

I don't know if it is true or not. It seems a broad, generalised blanket type statement. We always used to say though, if you want to know how your husband will treat you, then watch how he treats his mum. The man who needs his mother to wash his clothes is likely to be looking for a maid with benifits more than a wife.

[Guest_The 7 Dwarfs_*]

I think it depends on the reason why they hate their mother. If they were abused by their mother, then would you really expect them to like her?

[amoral lemur]

Would also depend on why they hate their mother?

This.

Treating women (including their mother) with disrespect is one thing. Having a completely normal reaction to a toxic mother is quite another.