[Privileged]

I caught a cab today, and the cabbie had a talk back show on and they were discussing whether woman today expect too much from men.

The driver asked me if I agreed, and I said "I think women get involved with a man, and then they expect him to change into the person they would really like to be with. What they should do it work out what they want, and then look for someone who has those qualities"

I then explained that being with someone who is educated is important to me (cause I like to discuss fairly obscure things, and people without an education usually have NFI what I'm talking about), and I also expected a man with a certain level of financial success, cause I didn't want to struggle, and that is who I married. The driver thought this was nuts, because in his opinion, you could be rich without an education.

Now, of course he is right, but I wanted someone both relatively successful, and educated. I was happy to be alone if I didn't find him, but no way was I going to settle for less than I felt happy with. The rest of my life will presumably be a long time.

So, am I nuts? Is a man with an education important to you? Is there something wrong with saying so?

And lastly, do you think that women fail to have a plan when considering prospective mates?







(my plan was 1. Don't end up with a loser and 2. Non loser will have a job, not have been married, and have no kids 3. Someone you can happily talk to for the next 40 or 50 years would be good - get one who's educated.)

This post has been edited by Monosyballic: 30/09/2009, 08:52 PM

[Jenosyde]

education wasn't high on my list, a certain degree of intelligence yes.

However, there were other traits a lot higher on my priority list!

Everybody has different priorities in what they require in a person in order to be compatible.

lol not sure about having d&m's with a cabbie though.... or I should say, cabbies watching day time tv while working (driving!).

[le_petit_poisson]

I wanted a man who is curious, wise, hardworking and constantly seeking self improvement. An education and a successful career would perhaps be a reflection of those things but I'd certainly be open to other signs. If I were typing a 'criteria' into a dating site, yes, I probably would list education and career as important.

Before hubby I dated:

- A carpenter
- A (now) surgeon
- A travel agent
- A music industry executive
- An accountant
- A professional traveller and long-term povo

My husband is a Director at a top investment bank.

The remarkable thing is that they were all basically the same bloke. I have a type. :

[donthavetv]

DO you mean educated in the sense of official qualifications ?
I don't think you need to be 'educated' to be able to have meaningful intelligent conversations.
I also wouldn't have chosen my husband based on his financial cred. He clearly had none, but it didn't mean he would be a loser. These things can go as easily as they come, once a wealthy man doesn't mean always.
I think anyone with such tight standards might be limiting themselves to great possibilities.

[Dani]

Nope I don't have a stipulation on education standard. My DH left school with his O levels and never did Uni or any extra study and he landed on his feet. (You know what he earns, you do his tax! ) My XH was a construction engineer and that took him 6 years at Uni for and sure professionally was/is very successful but brains wise doesn't touch the sides of my husband, doesn't even come close.

I do admit to having a certain type of bloke though, just the way it's panned out I guess.

[*soy-latte*]

I like a guy who can spell. As a former linguist it's very important to me. I find spelling mistakes (simple ones) a real turn off.

Not concerned about $$$, I don't need anything flash. Just my cosy home & dog, plus the health of my children.

[The Goodbye Girl]

Intelligence and education are not always linked. Some of the dumbest people I've met have PhDs it doesn't mean they have a grip on what's going on in the world or an ounce of common sense. I would rather be with someone who I can talk world events with rather than someone who has multiple degrees but can only string two words together if the topic of conversation is related to the area he has studied/worked in.

So no, I didn't look for an education in a man (DP dropped out of high school at the end of year 10) but it was important that they had a sensible head their shoulders, the ability to hold a conversation on a wide range of topics and had a keen interest in world events.

[whitewithonethan...]

Hi there,

I think 'common sense' and a willingness to look at a problem from all sides is much more important!

-al

[BBlessed]

No, it was not. I was after someone who was sexy as hell, made me laugh and was interested in me. I wiated 19 years for someone to tick that final box, so when he came along I nabbed him quick smart!

[getbacktobed]

The remarkable thing is that they were all basically the same bloke. I have a type

I think you're spot on with the 'type'.

I think I'd substitute 'well read', 'well travelled' and 'interested in what is going on in the world' for 'educated'.

This post has been edited by getbacktobed: 30/09/2009, 09:30 PM