[mum850]

10 months old
Just did CC, ie went in every two minutes or so for TWO AND A HALF HOURS between 0130 and 0400...... she wants to be up and playing.
SHe is normally not the best sleeper but this is RIDICULOUS. Usually we have more problems with the daytime nap/s. However she did have two naps today so not especially overtired. Not hungry, nappy OK, perfectly happy if picked up and crying volume diminished with distance from the cot. I only did the last half hour religiously with the clock.
ANyone got any words of wisdom....? Or want a second hand baby?


edited to clarify that I am not a neglectful child abuser!!
In the two and a half hours I did three sessions of going in every two minutes, also for the rest of the time what felt like hours of patting, carrying her round, rocking, singing, feeding, trying anything!!!!!

This post has been edited by mum850: 25/04/2009, 02:08 PM

[fooiesmum]

Hello,

Sorry - no words of wisdom, give her big cuddles, give her a boobie feed, if you are still feeding or offer her a bottle, tell her you love her & sing her to sleep in your arms.

They are babes for such a short time.

I have fed by 13.5month DD 4 times tonight, it wasn't a great night for her - but that's OK, we all have bad nights.

Best wishes if you persist with the CC though, but maybe look at another method as it sounds like this one isn't working.

Again - not trying to be rude, good luck with getting a nap today though whilst your DD has a sleep too.

[gabbigirl]

Would you consider bringing her into your bed? does that work for you? Our little girl 9mo likes to think its playtime at 4am in the morning. so we bring her into bed and go to sleep and she copies us. we get an extra 1.5 hrs sleep that way. we love that special time with her as well.

[hutais]

Oh you poor thing

Maybe she is going through a "wonder week"?

[Shooting*Star]

Give her a big cuddle and take her into your bed were you can rest and pat/sing/cuddle her to sleep at the same time.
Or even get up and give her a 15 minute play to were her out- maybe she just isn't tired!

If she's happy when picked up she probably needs a cuddle and doesn't want to be alone in her cot. 10 months is so little and there only babies for a tiny while.

Good luck!!!

[~*MESS*~]

I know what it's like to be up and down all night. My DD is 2.5 and still a PITA, but I could never resort to CC. Personally, I think it's more distressing for them. At 10 months, your DD needs reassurance and more gentle settling.

If you do want to go down that road, I've heard that it should not be done for more than 1 hour at a time and not until they are over 12 months because they just don't understand.

This post has been edited by ~*MESS*~: 25/04/2009, 09:59 AM

[anonebber]

Sorry - no wisdom from me either - other than you did the right thing! And as tough as it it for you both what you're trying to achieve is for her to sleep happily in her own bed and you're taking the right steps.

I am going to disagree with the ppers though - if you don't want to co-sleep in the long term the last thing you should do is take her into your bed. I've been there and done that - and while it seems like the easy option at 3am when you're both exhausted all you're doing is telling her that if she wakes and cries she'll get to sleep with you. You're just setting yourself up for more and more nights like last night.

It's back breaking - but patting her while she's lying in her cot until she's quiet and then walking out and persisting with this until she's asleep in the best approach.

I learn this the hard way - as with twins I had to have a solution that I could manage if they both woke at the same time. I simply couldn't cuddle two of them to sleep at once.

Good luck with it - try and persist for both your sakes. I hope tonight is a better night for you both.

[mum850]

Thanks everyone,
Just out of interest after going to sleep at 4 she woke up at 5!!! But only took 15 minutes or so that time.

I have tried taking her into bed with me, in desperation, however it does not work. Playtime!!
I am not a controlled crying purist, I just want to do anything to get her to sleep! I also have two other kids and I work. We have also been giving her bottles but sometimes she does not want them, and i have been patting and singing to her in my arms and in her cot but as all the above did not work I thought I should remove the incentive for her to keep going as the prize for her crying is mum and dad's attention in the middle of the night....

WHat's a wonder week?

WHat other methods would you suggest fooiesmum? CC was thie thing when I had my older kids but maybe it has changed.

Hate it when people write in then say yeah, I did that already to all the suggestions! So sorry if it looks like i am doing that.

Also she won't take a dummy... Have tried music but not recently.... maybe I shoudl give that another go....

thanks everyone...

[Leoni]

Wow, you lasted 2.5 hrs? I also have a "bad" almost 10 month old sleeper who wakes every 4 hrs ATM but our issue is teeth coming through, lots and lots of teeth.

It sounds like a battle of the wills, if she hasn't settled after 30 minutes (ie: you've changed her and popped her back in her cot and you can hear her screaming) bring her to your bed, feed her boobie/bottle and let her sleep with you. You can then transfer her back to her cot later in the morning when she is asleep. I find my DD gets so worked up if she starts screaming that no amount of CC will work, its easier and more calming to pick them up and comfort them at this age. Maybe she's teething, has a sore tummy or just got frightened, but 2.5 hrs is just not worth it for you or her.

Hang in there, next week she'll probably change her sleep pattern again.

[littlecuties]

Sorry, I have no advice but I did controlled crying on my eldest (she is 19 now) and it took a week. After that she was perfect in going to sleep on her own. Having said that, looking back I wouldn't do it again. I have 6 more kids down to 2 years old and I have never done it again.

I found it very upsetting for myself and I think it was damaging for her. I certainly think 2.5 hours is way too long.

I don't think you're meant to go in every 2 mins either, she is getting the reward too quickly. I think if you're going to do it, go in at longer intervals and don't talk to her because you're getting her hopes up.

This post has been edited by littlecuties: 25/04/2009, 10:06 AM