[trishalishous]

My 2.9 yo has initiated toilet training 3 times now. The first she was 18 months, but she broke her leg, and we couldnt risk accidents with a cast, so she went back into nappies (it was 800km round trip to get the cast fixed))
The second time was at 2yo but she went from 90% trained, to 0% trained when DS arrived.
Now at 2.7 she again started asking for the toilet, and holding on. We've had a few 100% dry days, and then this week has been shocking. Every single wee and poo has been in her knickers/pull ups.
Would you give it a bit longer (its been 2 months this try) or just put her back into nappies again, and try again in a few months?
Its a bit worrying for us, as she has been ahead with everything else (crawling at 4 months, walking at 11 months, shes sight reading in both our languages and able to to basic addition/subtraction, with no coaching or anything from us) and isnt showing much progress at this!

[kadoodle]

Frustrating, isn't it?

My eldest false started with toilet training a couple of times too, she regressed when DS1 was born, then again when she changed child care centres. She was having accidents until she was at least 4 too.

If your budget can handle it, stick her back in nappies until next summer. She'll be three and a bit and the nerve connections between her bladder, bowel and brain well and truly established. Otherwise, persevere, grit your teeth and make sure the washing machine is running well.

It matters not how smart they are, but how well the nerve connections from bum to brain are established.

[SeaPrincess]

Give it at least 3 weeks. DD PTed early, but something happened at the 3-wk mark and it was like a switch flipped.

[Sinister Bonnet]

I'm the only person I know with a kid who is not bowel trained and probably never will be. He's got congenital megacolon and it was never going to be a success.

Give her time and it will work. Toilet training has nothing to do with intelligence, it's a physical matter.

[trishalishous]

Give it at least 3 weeks. DD PTed early, but something happened at the 3-wk mark and it was like a switch flipped.

this try has been 2 months already

I know its not an intelligence issue, but she KNOWS that she needs to go, and doesnt say anything, and doesnt say when she wets herself. If shes playing outside, she will happily stay in wet knickers/pants until I cant stand it any more, and tell her to come and get changed ( we figured that she'd hate the wet feeling and want to be changed if we left her)

We use cloth nappies, so pull ups are heaps more expensive to keep trying with.

[kadoodle]

You've ruled out a UTI?

I used cloth training pants on my kids, as it was cheaper and they could tell (and get uncomfortable) when they were wet. Sanitary pads/incontinence pads have also been used by friends with their TT'ng toddlers, as they're cheaper and easier to deal with and dispose of than nappies or pull ups.

[kittycat01]

Have you tried ditching pull ups completely apart from sleeps? They might be confusing her? Plan about 3-5 days where you don't have to go anywhere. We got loads of $3 shorts in Kmart.

This worked with DS1 for us. We had 20 outfits on day 1 (we were about ready to throw in the towel after that), about 6/7 oitfits on day 2 and only 1 on day 3. Rarely has accidents now (only really if he can't get his shorts open in time (zips/buttons can be a problem). He's had more accidents when he's had UTIs which he's had a few of recently. Seems to affect his sensation...he gets really upset as he explains that he didn't realise he needed to go.

Also, keep potty beside where she is playing..we only moved it to bathroom after 3mths.

Kitty

[soontobegran]

Your little girl is still young. If I was you I would be waiting until she started waking with a dry nappy or having longer periods of being dry.

I have seen so many cases of too much expectation and stress placed upon a toddler having the reverse result. Toilet training depends on physiology and not intelligence and has nothing to do with her being an early walker etc.

I personally see no point in running around after a child cleaning up wet patches and cleaning poopy and wet knickers, having a nappy on is not going to stop TT happening but it does stop an awful lot of angst. I'd rather change a nappy than steam clean carpets and rinse dirty clothes.
Our children took a matter of days to 'click' when they were ready and my two 3 years + 3 month grandchildren have both TT recently going from wet and poopy nappies to undies and no accidents day and night in 2 weeks.
Good luck, give her a break for a bit.

[trishalishous]

I hadnt thought about a UTI, will keep an eye on that.
We were only using pull ups in the car (30 min drive either way) and at the local indoor playcentre (in case of accidents). The rest of the time she was dry, until about a week ago.
Shes dry at nap time, and usually dry overnight (in fact first thing in the morning was the one time she was guaranteed to need the loo and actually go)
this last week every time she has been in knickers she has just wee'd poo'd and then not wanted to be changed

[~ky~]

My older kids were advanced with everything physical too. Neither were ready to toilet train until around their third birthday and they both did it themselves with no accidents.

Night training didn't happen until they were 7yo as their urine did not concentrate overnight until then and they were ridiculously heavy sleepers. Again, no accidents once they were ready.

I will let Anna start trying from around 2yo but I will not put any pressure on her nor get upset or anxious if she doesn't seem to be getting it.