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> One twin invited to bday party and not the other, Update Post #49

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Libster
post 28/02/2013, 02:44 PM
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My daughter has received an invitation for a birthday party for her friend at preschool however it only has her name on it, not her twin sister's. I suppose I shouldn't expect an invitation for both however they're only 4 and it breaks my heart to have to tell my other daughter that she can't go to the party.

I'd think it would be fair enough if they were in different classes however my daughters and this friend are in the same class. Then I thought maybe the mother doesn't know that they are twins but both of my daughters names are on the same pocket outside the classroom...

Would you ask the mother if your other twin could come along? There is another issue too, my husband won't be home the day of the party and I think my daughter is a bit young for me to do the "drop and run", so I'm not sure who can look after my other daughter. Aargh it's all too hard!

ETA: The party is at their house and not a play centre or anything.

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post 28/02/2013, 02:51 PM
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I would ask.

It may well be the case that the other parents don't know, even if both their names are on it.

I'm sure anyone would understand.
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post 28/02/2013, 02:51 PM
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Every time someone comes on here suggesting it's not fair that their child isn't invited to a party they're shot down and told no one should expect an invite because not everybody needs to be friends with everybody else.

Why do you imagine it should be any different for twins? I'd call this a good learning experience.
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post 28/02/2013, 02:52 PM
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SORRY I DID NOT SEE WHAT SECTION THIS WAS UNDER AS I LOOK AT NEW POSTS

I can only give my view on what I would do in this situation if my son were a twin, first off I am finding all this party etiquette very tiring when I was a kid I received/gave invites and I went/didn’t go or people came to mine or not. I hold the same view towards my son’s (future) ones. He will be invited to some not others (and I am presuming if he was a son the same) we will invite some kids not others (I am not nor ever having an ‘invite the whole class’ parties) and as he takes everything in his stride I would be surprised if it bothered him BUT if it does I will just explain the situation at the time, it is up to me to speak to him if he is upset not the other parents.

Mind you even though he is nearly 5 and a half I doubt he has any idea what a party is or whether he would like to go or not. He has been to one in his life and was not fussed. I could not even imagine him having the foggiest idea at 4

For the practicality side I would write a letter and explain you can’t go because you don’t have anyone to look after the other child.

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post 28/02/2013, 02:53 PM
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Strange they only invited one and not both? Particularly as they are only 4.

I think I would probably decline the invite.
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post 28/02/2013, 02:53 PM
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I would talk to mother. As you say she may not know they are twins, its also possible her DD might have thought inviting one twin was actually inviting the other twin too.



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post 28/02/2013, 02:56 PM
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The fembos go so overboard.
The first time one DD went to a party but not the other was hard, but they soon saw it eventually evened out. Is your DP not able to look after one child, assuming the party is on the weekend?
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post 28/02/2013, 02:56 PM
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hi,

When my DD changed schools it had two classes and she invite whole of her class. I didn't know that one of the girls was a twin (twin in other class). The mum rang when she was rsvping and mentioned it. I was grateful to her as i didn't know and didn't have an issue with one more child.

Mention it to the mum, she really may not have realised that they are twins.

May you could mention that you are willing to help out at the event if that would make it easier.
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post 28/02/2013, 02:58 PM
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QUOTE (FluffyOscar @ 28/02/2013, 03:56 PM) *
The first time one DD went to a party but not the other was hard, but they soon saw it eventually evened out. Is your DP not able to look after one child, assuming the party is on the weekend?


No, he'll be at the Future Music Festival all day... usually he's not busy on the weekends original.gif
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post 28/02/2013, 03:00 PM
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QUOTE (seayork2002 @ 28/02/2013, 03:52 PM) *
For the practicality side I would write a letter and explain you can’t go because you don’t have anyone to look after the other child.


This. Maybe she will get the hint.

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