[StudyMummy]

Fully deleted now due to this matter being taken higher.

This post has been edited by OneBlueStar: 28/02/2013, 06:29 PM

[snortle]

Oh I have no advice unfortunately but I would have been so upset in your shoes.
I probably would have given them a piece of my mind and made some rather stern comments about their (lack of) professionalism.

[FluffyOscar]

I would tell my DH. Someone has to look out for him. Very sad and highly unprofessional. I'd hate to think your DH assumed he was working with professional people, when he's not.

[Two cheeky monke...]

Wow OP, I'm surprised you said nothing in defense of your DH.... I understand that you may be concerned about repercussions but I don't think anyone could have had any grounds for self defence had you clearly stated that was unprofessional of them, not to mention downright nasty. Calling people names like shrek, is immature and nasty. I would have said something if I were in your shoes, but I do understand that not everyone likes confrontation. Still, what if it had been about one of your children? Would you have spoken up then?


ETA: if I were in your DH's shoes I would want to know what was going on as hard as it may be to hear. Better that than to be under the illusion they are his friends and thus enable them to make even more fun of him.

This post has been edited by sillysausages: 27/02/2013, 07:34 PM

[Lickety Split]

What sort of gossip was it? Was it to do with his work or was it more personal? Depending on what was actually said I would tell DH. How horrible though

[lynnemine]

I would tell my DH. Someone has to look out for him. Very sad and highly unprofessional. I'd hate to think your DH assumed he was working with professional people, or people who are his friend, when he's not.

ETA - the bold is mine. It will be hurtful to hear, but clearly he needs to know NOT to trust or confide in these women at all.

[SlowEmotionRepla...]

I would tell your DH as he will be the only one unaware of the conversation leaving an info gap for him.

You are partners - you can discuss stuff like this at home - it is known as pillow talk. However, pillow talk remains confidential to the parties involved (you and your DH) which means even if you tell - he cannot mention or act on the information.

[bakesgirls]

I think you should tell your DH. If these people have no issue talking about him with the knowledge that the wife of the subject of their gossip was somewhere in the room, then what on earth are they saying about him to other people? I would worry that what you heard may only be the tip of the iceberg in regards to inappropriate discussions.

I would also worry that what they are saying could negatively impact on how others see him and affect his job prospects in the future. Unfortunately, these people are saying things that others may hear and believe, without having met him personally.

ETA- if it had been me, I wouldn't have just stood there and done nothing. I would have given them both a piece of my mind. They would have been informed, in no uncertain terms how appalling their behaviour was and that it reflects badly on them.

This post has been edited by bakesgirls: 27/02/2013, 07:55 PM

[Sunnycat]

I wouldn't tell my DH, mine would be gutted. Tbh I think I would actually complain. Name calling isn't acceptable in a workplace. It's unprofessional and childish. I wouldn't let these people get away with it.

[StudyMummy]

What sort of gossip was it? Was it to do with his work or was it more personal? Depending on what was actually said I would tell DH. How horrible though

The conversation was both professional and personal

I did mention to DH that I heard a conversation about him between these two people. I relayed the part that was mentioned by the person giving the training that related to DH in a professional matter.

This was when he told me that he thinks highly of both of these people and asked if anything nasty was said about him. At this stage, knowing how personally he takes on anything like this I said no as I wanted to work out whether or not I was over reacting.