[kitkatswing]

To try cut a long story short, we announced our pregnancy to our Swing Dance students last night.
One of these students is someone we do consider a friend, thats all. Not a close friend even.. He is a little (ok, a lot) socially awkward, doesnt know how to speak to people. Hes a nice guy though. Unfortunatly for us he thinks we are his best/close mates. (my husband and I).

I logged into the book of face this morning and found this message from him: (names removed)

Hey kks,

First I would like to say Congrats again. Next, I would like to say that even though it is still early I would like to put this out there for thought, I would like to be considered as a godparent for your infant. I know I am not special, you and S would most likely pick person 1 or person 2 , I don't really expect to be chosen but I just thought that I could at least ask to be considered as I feel that you two are really close friends of mine and that it would be an honor to be asked be apart of the great future that th...is will create.

Thank you in advance for the considereation.

Yours Sincerely

kks's friend
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Yeah.... I did basically write back saying if we do go down that path we have chosen two of our mates that are family to us but thanks anyway..
Its not what I wanted to write though!!!!!

So... Why oh why would he even think its ok to ask that??? I am godmother to my neice and would NEVER have asked my brother the above!

This post has been edited by kitkatswing: 28/02/2013, 01:44 PM

[Monket]

I think that is really sweet. How wonderful that this person is already taking an interest in your child's life. I would just thank him and let him know you hadn't yet thought that far ahead.

[Bluenomi]

Well if you wanted to scare him off you could have told him you've already sold the child's soul to the devil so no need for any godparents

I suspect if he's as socially awkward as you think, he doesn't know it's not the done thing to ask.

[SnazzySass]

He could have ASD. My DP sometimes thinks he is really good friends with someone who doesn't feel the same way because he misreads the signals.

[Therese]

I also think it's sweet. He obviously isn't aware that asking something like that isn't the done thing.

I think your reply to him was a good one.

[kitkatswing]

He really is a nice guy. But yes I do think something is not quite right... He does tend to invite himself along to anything we are doing...

He seems ok with my response...

I just though it very strange.....

[FiveAus]

Oh gosh, that's hard. I used to work for someone who was socially....inept, awkward etc, and was desperate to "belong".
He used to tell me about his best friend, how they'd met, all the things they'd done over the years.....these were two middle aged, single men.
I met the "best friend" eventually, and he and I got along like a house on fire. But he was clearly shocked when I mentioned that he was my bosses best friend. In no way, shape or form did he even consider himself a close friend....more of an acquaintance with a bit of history.

It's kind of sad really.

[SlowEmotionRepla...]

Oh gosh, that's hard. I used to work for someone who was socially....inept, awkward etc, and was desperate to "belong".
He used to tell me about his best friend, how they'd met, all the things they'd done over the years.....these were two middle aged, single men.
I met the "best friend" eventually, and he and I got along like a house on fire. But he was clearly shocked when I mentioned that he was my bosses best friend. In no way, shape or form did he even consider himself a close friend....more of an acquaintance with a bit of history.

It's kind of sad really.

Not sad at all and i hope your unfortunate remark did not affect their friendship. For your boss - that other man may have been his 'best' or 'closest' friend. Other other man may have had other closer friends. Symmetry is not necessarily always required. If you yourself had been more socially with it, you would have tuned in to that possibility and not made your comment which caused awkwardness.

[FlowersForAlgern...]

Why are you asking for "funny replies"? To ridicule him a little? I hope not.
His request seems genuine and heartfelt and even if you think it's a laughable idea, he doesn't. The bit where he says "I know I am not special" is sad.

I don't think it's rude to ask - it's certainly not the social norm but there's nothing wrong with asking to be considered.

Perhaps he can be a godbrother instead?!

[kitkatswing]

Why are you asking for "funny replies"? To ridicule him a little? I hope not.
His request seems genuine and heartfelt and even if you think it's a laughable idea, he doesn't. The bit where he says "I know I am not special" is sad.

I don't think it's rude to ask - it's certainly not the social norm but there's nothing wrong with asking to be considered.

Perhaps he can be a godbrother instead?!

My first reaction to his question was "Oh hell no!!".... This guy invites himself along to everything we do. Look I really like him as a friend ,but sometimes he can be a little over the top...

godbrother, not a chance at all, not even in the slightest would I even consider it....

He is our dance student.....