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RSVP Etiquette, Should I chase RSVPs?

crd View Member Profile	23/02/2013, 11:28 PM Post #1
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Hi all, I apologise if this topic has already been thrashed out, I don't spend that much time on EB. I was just after a little help before I commit a social faux pas. If you don't RSVP, would that mean you've genuinely forgotten, can go and wouldn't mind a reminder. Would it mean you can't go but you wouldn't mind being chased up, or would it mean you are available, really don't want to go and you are hoping that if you ignore it, it will go away I guess I'm wondering, should I chase people that haven't given a RSVP by the required date, or should I assume they are not coming? Would you think it rude if someone hassled you for a response? Thanks for your help!

MrsBouquet View Member Profile	23/02/2013, 11:45 PM Post #2
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I chase up those who haven't RSVPed. I think they are the rude ones (unless they have genuinely forgotten).

envs View Member Profile	23/02/2013, 11:53 PM Post #3
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I am terrible with RSVP. My phone and the invite never seem to be in the dame place when I am able to send the RSVP.... I hate talking on the phone, but feel bad just texting a response, so I procrastinate...until RSVP time comes and goes Please don't think people like me are being rude intentionally and it would be very welcome to receive a reminder : )

Sunnycat View Member Profile	23/02/2013, 11:56 PM Post #4
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I think it's rude not to make the effort to RSVP, so if people don't bother RSVPing I just count them as not coming.

NotBitzerMaloney View Member Profile	24/02/2013, 12:06 AM Post #5
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Could be any of those, so do a no pressure "just verifying you can't make it" follow up, if you want to.

Gudrun View Member Profile	24/02/2013, 12:21 AM Post #6
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It just means they haven't answered and they should have. If you need to know numbers then you'll need to chase them up. They may or may not intend coming or if they're like my sister and just don't RSVP at all to keep the options open. (Not charming, )

Mozzie1 View Member Profile	24/02/2013, 12:40 AM Post #7
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I chased everyone who didn't RSVP to our wedding. Turns out one of my best friends never got his invite, and assumed he hadn't made the cut! Always follow up.

JustBeige View Member Profile	24/02/2013, 05:47 AM Post #8
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Depends on the event, but I usually chase if its a catered or numbered event. Its incredibly rude to not rsvp, there is no excuse when you have received an invitation. Unfortunately it happens a lot these days.

seayork2002 View Member Profile	24/02/2013, 09:04 AM Post #9
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I would hope I would remember but if not I would have no issues at all with a reminder I would just reply then, I guess if you are not sure only chase if you need to know for number sake (so you don't have to pay for no shows) just assume they are not showing, if you do chase and they have a problem with that then they really are rude!

Guest_Dinah_Harris_*	24/02/2013, 09:09 AM Post #10


I assume they are not coming. If they can't be bothered RSVP'ing, in all honesty, I don't want them there.

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