[4ngiebella]

A good friend of ours died last Friday. His funeral is this Friday. Our boys will be in school but try as I might I cannot get a sitter for our little daughter.

Do you think it's ok for me to take her with us? She is a very quiet baby and I would obviously go outside with her if she got noisy but as I only go to funerals of those very close I don't know what the norm is.

We both want to go to the funeral and ideally we wouldn't take the lady baby with us but unless one of us don't go, this is the only way.

I guess I'm just hoping people will reassure me that it's ok. This week has already been so hard. I had hoped my support network might be a little more understanding and help me out

[Saecularis Angel...]

So sorry for your loss.

Yes, absolutely take your DD with you.

[Mianta]

I think it's fine. I'm sorry for your loss

[Chaos in stereo]

Yes you can take a baby, but IME be prepared for one of you to spend the whole thing outside with bubs.

[FloralArrangemen...]

Yes I do think it is ok. Our baby son slept through my grandmother's funeral. My cousin's baby son was also not a problem. I think it is an important funeral for you to attend.

[4ngiebella]

Thank you so much. He was a good man taken too young (42). We just really want to be able to give our respects and say goodbye. He deserves that

[Chchgirl]

I would think so. I didn't mind little or big kids at my dh's funeral, I think your bub should be fine...

Sorry for your loss as well xx

[Bel Rowley]

I agree with Chaos, I would take the baby but be prepared that someone might have to take the baby out. I was very fortunate when I took 7 month old DD to my grandfather's funeral, that a family friend was there to take her out when she started screaming. I was doing a reading and couldn't walk out (plus of course didn't want to).

Very sorry about your friend .

[Mumsyto2]

Absolutely. Just sit at the back near the exit door so that if bubs starts wailing one of you can take her out until she is settled then come back in.

I've taken my kids to all funerals I have been to as they have all pertained to family but I would have had no issue taking them to a friends funeral either. To be honest I found that as babies they were no problem, it was the toddler phase that was as they get bored and want to runa round which is inappropriate. When they are older it seemed to be okay as they then moved into a morbid fascination about the whole thing.

[Jamelex]

I'm sorry for your loss.

When DS was a similar age, I had to take him to my aunt's funeral. He slept in the car on the way there and I gave him a feed on arrival so he was happy and settled. We sat at the end of a row next to the side exit and I had his dummy in reach also. We didn't have any problems.